5 Very Important Qualities of Your Partner if You Want to Live With Him for the Rest of Your Life

When plan­ning a wed­ding, we all hope not only for a beau­ti­ful hol­i­day, but also for a “long and hap­py life” after it. Fate returns in dif­fer­ent ways, but we have pre­pared 5 signs that you can build a hap­py life-long rela­tion­ship with this per­son. Fin­gers crossed how many of these qual­i­ties your fiancé has 🙂

If some points are sud­den­ly not in the char­ac­ter of your cho­sen one, then don’t wor­ry: we learn and devel­op all our lives, so not being ide­al is an absolute norm. Pay atten­tion to prob­lem areas and work on them togeth­er to make the rela­tion­ship even stronger and more com­fort­able for both.

1. He likes challenges

Long-term rela­tion­ships are already a chal­lenge, and fam­i­ly life con­stant­ly pro­vokes dif­fi­cult sit­u­a­tions that require imme­di­ate and often dif­fi­cult solu­tions. A great sign will be if your future hus­band is not afraid to take respon­si­bil­i­ty, will­ing­ly accepts chal­lenges and does not fall into a stu­por from prob­lems. Of course, there are extreme­ly dif­fi­cult sit­u­a­tions when it is nor­mal to feel apa­thy, con­fu­sion, or even pow­er­less­ness. But only for a cer­tain time. Then you need to be able to put your­self in a heap and take respon­si­bil­i­ty.

In this dif­fi­cult time for the whole coun­try, many cou­ples had the oppor­tu­ni­ty to see each oth­er’s abil­i­ty (or inabil­i­ty) to act in the most extreme con­di­tions. We hope that this expe­ri­ence has strength­ened your con­fi­dence in each oth­er, and in the future such extra efforts will not be nec­es­sary.

2. He knows how to quarrel

Yes, you have to be able to do that too 🙂 And it’s not about how skill­ful­ly he plays cym­bals or how many octaves he takes when he switch­es to shout­ing — it’s quite the oppo­site.

Con­flicts and quar­rels are inevitable in any rela­tion­ship. Both of you should treat this as the norm and go with it. But not in order to spill emo­tions and prac­tice sar­casm, but in order to reach con­sen­sus and after each encounter draw new con­clu­sions that will make life togeth­er more com­fort­able.

If your part­ner (or you your­self) is afraid of quar­rels, avoids them in every pos­si­ble way and choos­es to keep the prob­lems silent — you need to work on this. Agree that small fights don’t break up the rela­tion­ship, don’t mean you don’t love each oth­er, and don’t have any dis­as­trous results at all. But learn to rec­on­cile prop­er­ly — we have a sep­a­rate very use­ful arti­cle about this: “8 ques­tions to ask your part­ner after a fight”

3. He knows how to be in a long relationship

It is also a skill that is acquired through expe­ri­ence. Unfor­tu­nate­ly, some peo­ple, due to their fears or trau­mas or mis­un­der­stand­ing of the essence of a long rela­tion­ship, can “jump” between part­ners with­out ever find­ing a place for them­selves.

If you have been togeth­er for quite a long time (more than two years) or your cho­sen one had a long rela­tion­ship in the past, this at least means that he knows about the dif­fer­ent stages in a rela­tion­ship, knows how to cope with them or is at least ready for these chal­lenges. If not, you should talk to him about the fact that fam­i­ly life is built not only on love, and but­ter­flies have the unpleas­ant habit of peri­od­i­cal­ly dis­ap­pear­ing, leav­ing us alone with every­day life, shop­ping lists and repair plans.

4. You feel good around him

To answer this point, focus on your feel­ings togeth­er with your part­ner. Not on his qual­i­ties, inter­est­ing hob­bies, charm­ing smile and a mil­lion oth­er things that made you say yes to his pro­pos­al… But on your­self. Ide­al­ly, you should feel com­fort­able and pro­tect­ed with him, be able to safe­ly express your feel­ings and emo­tions with­out fear of his reac­tion, show your weak­ness­es and short­com­ings. Has he already seen you in old paja­mas, with­out make­up and with a dirty head? 🙂 If at the same time you felt calm, felt (or bet­ter — heard) that you are already the most beau­ti­ful and the most beloved for him, then with a huge prob­a­bil­i­ty every­thing is fine.

If you choose a part­ner for life, then with him you should be your­self and not receive crit­i­cism or oth­er neg­a­tive sig­nals for this, which would force you to hide, “straight­en your back” or apol­o­gize.

5. He is a good person

The point is the last and with a not very clear name, but it is super impor­tant. Why? Because you deserve to be with a cool per­son, espe­cial­ly if it’s for life! Most girls in their teenage years went through the stage of falling in love with pagans, but this should be left behind — good guys are in con­trol 🙂 Yes, with them there is less adren­a­line and emo­tion­al roller coast­ers, but they will only hin­der you in lat­er life. And who would want a cru­el father to their future chil­dren?

If your part­ner is kind, does not shy away from help­ing oth­ers, is kind to ani­mals and chil­dren, this is a great sign. Inner kind­ness always fas­ci­nates, and in the long run it will help resolve con­flicts and treat each oth­er with respect and ten­der­ness even dur­ing dif­fi­cult peri­ods in a rela­tion­ship.