When planning a wedding, we all hope not only for a beautiful holiday, but also for a “long and happy life” after it. Fate returns in different ways, but we have prepared 5 signs that you can build a happy life-long relationship with this person. Fingers crossed how many of these qualities your fiancé has 🙂
If some points are suddenly not in the character of your chosen one, then don’t worry: we learn and develop all our lives, so not being ideal is an absolute norm. Pay attention to problem areas and work on them together to make the relationship even stronger and more comfortable for both.
1. He likes challenges
Long-term relationships are already a challenge, and family life constantly provokes difficult situations that require immediate and often difficult solutions. A great sign will be if your future husband is not afraid to take responsibility, willingly accepts challenges and does not fall into a stupor from problems. Of course, there are extremely difficult situations when it is normal to feel apathy, confusion, or even powerlessness. But only for a certain time. Then you need to be able to put yourself in a heap and take responsibility.
In this difficult time for the whole country, many couples had the opportunity to see each other’s ability (or inability) to act in the most extreme conditions. We hope that this experience has strengthened your confidence in each other, and in the future such extra efforts will not be necessary.
2. He knows how to quarrel
Yes, you have to be able to do that too 🙂 And it’s not about how skillfully he plays cymbals or how many octaves he takes when he switches to shouting — it’s quite the opposite.
Conflicts and quarrels are inevitable in any relationship. Both of you should treat this as the norm and go with it. But not in order to spill emotions and practice sarcasm, but in order to reach consensus and after each encounter draw new conclusions that will make life together more comfortable.
If your partner (or you yourself) is afraid of quarrels, avoids them in every possible way and chooses to keep the problems silent — you need to work on this. Agree that small fights don’t break up the relationship, don’t mean you don’t love each other, and don’t have any disastrous results at all. But learn to reconcile properly — we have a separate very useful article about this: “8 questions to ask your partner after a fight”
3. He knows how to be in a long relationship
It is also a skill that is acquired through experience. Unfortunately, some people, due to their fears or traumas or misunderstanding of the essence of a long relationship, can “jump” between partners without ever finding a place for themselves.
If you have been together for quite a long time (more than two years) or your chosen one had a long relationship in the past, this at least means that he knows about the different stages in a relationship, knows how to cope with them or is at least ready for these challenges. If not, you should talk to him about the fact that family life is built not only on love, and butterflies have the unpleasant habit of periodically disappearing, leaving us alone with everyday life, shopping lists and repair plans.
4. You feel good around him
To answer this point, focus on your feelings together with your partner. Not on his qualities, interesting hobbies, charming smile and a million other things that made you say yes to his proposal… But on yourself. Ideally, you should feel comfortable and protected with him, be able to safely express your feelings and emotions without fear of his reaction, show your weaknesses and shortcomings. Has he already seen you in old pajamas, without makeup and with a dirty head? 🙂 If at the same time you felt calm, felt (or better — heard) that you are already the most beautiful and the most beloved for him, then with a huge probability everything is fine.
If you choose a partner for life, then with him you should be yourself and not receive criticism or other negative signals for this, which would force you to hide, “straighten your back” or apologize.
5. He is a good person
The point is the last and with a not very clear name, but it is super important. Why? Because you deserve to be with a cool person, especially if it’s for life! Most girls in their teenage years went through the stage of falling in love with pagans, but this should be left behind — good guys are in control 🙂 Yes, with them there is less adrenaline and emotional roller coasters, but they will only hinder you in later life. And who would want a cruel father to their future children?
If your partner is kind, does not shy away from helping others, is kind to animals and children, this is a great sign. Inner kindness always fascinates, and in the long run it will help resolve conflicts and treat each other with respect and tenderness even during difficult periods in a relationship.