Life is an unpredictable thing, and sometimes even important decisions have to be canceled. Canceling a wedding can be a painful topic, because the difficulty of the decision for the couple is compounded by the difficulties with the environment: how to convey this information to the guests, what to tell the contractors and where, in the end, to hang the wedding dress? Whatever the reason for canceling the wedding, Chanfashion this article will tell you how to deal with the consequences.
How to inform the guests about the cancellation of the wedding?
If plans have been canceled before you’ve sent out formal invitations, guests can be notified via instant messaging or email. A rather dry message like “Dear Mykhailo and Kateryna, we inform you that the wedding of Ivan and Maryna on October 23 will not take place. We will inform about the reasons later. Thank you for understanding”.
If the invitations have already been handed out to the guests, it is better to notify them by phone to be sure that the information has reached everyone in time. One hundred percent after such a message, the guests will be surprised and will ask about the reasons for the cancellation. Because of this, it is better to entrust this task to the parents, siblings or girlfriends on each side of the ex-fiancées. So you will not suffer, answering painful questions in circles.
Do you need to explain the reasons for canceling the wedding?
Short and simple — no. To begin with, a message that the wedding has been canceled is enough. Later, when you solve all organizational issues and get a little back to normal, you can reveal the reasons for such a decision in more detail.
Perhaps it will be easier for you to ask a close friend to take over the further communication with the invitees, so that you do not have to return to this topic and painful questions dozens of times.
It is better not to spread information on social networks (even if, on emotions, you want to angrily throw this fact in the face of the whole world). Otherwise, you will receive a lot of messages, often tactless, from distant relatives or acquaintances, which will definitely not improve your morale. In addition, it can provoke a lot of gossip and conjecture, which will continue to inform you for some time and remind you of the incident.
What to do with the wedding ring?
This is a very individual question. Here are some rules you can follow:
- If the engagement ring is a family heirloom and was not purchased before the proposal, then it must return to the family it previously belonged to. Regardless of who initiated the annulment of the marriage.
- If the woman decided to refuse the proposal, it would be better for her to return the ring to her ex-fiancé.
- If the husband withdraws the proposal, it is better for the bride to dispose of the ring. However, there is a high probability that the girl will want to return it, so as not to remind herself of the canceled wedding.
- If the couple bought the ring together, it should be disposed of like other things bought for the wedding. For example, sell or return to a jewelry store and split the returned funds.
Do I need to return gifts?
If, after the announcement of the upcoming wedding, you received any gifts in honor of this, then you should return them, not forgetting to thank the guests once again. The exception is only things that you have already had time to use. If someone insists that you keep a gift for yourself, you should accept it with gratitude. However, consider your own feelings: if things remind you of unpleasant events, it is better to ask the giver for permission to sell the thing, give it to charity or donate it. Maybe it will be a little uncomfortable, but in this case, do not sacrifice your own psychological comfort for the sake of politeness.
What to do with wedding images?
If the groom’s suit and wedding shoes can still be used for other events with an official dress code or even adapted to everyday life, then everything is different with the wedding dress. Still, you can’t wear it to a meeting with girlfriends in a coffee shop.
The first step is to contact the salon or atelier where you ordered the wedding dress. Or authorize someone close to you to do it for you, if doing it is too unpleasant. Salons are not so rarely faced with returning dresses or canceling orders, so they have a certain algorithm of actions for such a case. If you haven’t even had time to pick up the dress and finish the sewing, you can return a significant part of the money.
In the event that it was not possible to return the wedding dress to the salon, it can be sold on Internet sites, handed over to a clothing rental service, or donated to charity.
If the canceled wedding is not a traumatic memory for you, and other methods of “disposing” of the dress did not work, then the wedding dress can be re-stitched. Depending on the style, fabric and decor, the artisans from the atelier will help you create new wardrobe elements using materials from the dress. A snow-white summer suit, a cocktail dress or a luxurious top will not interfere with your wardrobe 🙂
However, if the dress or things made from it cause any negativity or sadness — get rid of them urgently so as not to embarrass your heart.
Can advances paid to contractors be returned?
It depends on the terms of the contract you entered into with specialists or firms, as well as how much time is left until the date you booked. The closer to the wedding date, the less money you will be able to return. When concluding the contract, be careful about the refund part, and especially about the list of circumstances that will be considered valid. For example, canceling a wedding due to your personal reasons may not fall under the concept of force majeure from the point of view of the contract, so the deposit will either be returned at a lower percentage or not at all.
If you did not sign a contract with a specialist at all, then the chances of getting money back are minimal and depend on the professional’s personal policy.