A wedding is a church ceremony of marriage that has a long history and plays an important role for believing couples. If the registry office solemnly unites your names on paper called “Marriage Certificate”, then the church unites your souls before the face of the Lord. If you are religious enough, or extremely sentimental, the wedding ceremony will strengthen and ennoble your union.
Chanfashion prepared for you an article about the rules and laws of this beautiful church sacrament.
General rules and requirements of the wedding
1 Both the groom and the bride must belong to the Christian Orthodox faith.
2 Newlyweds should not be related to the fourth generation.
3 You can get married no more than 3 times.
4 Before going to church, register the marriage officially, at the registry office.
Our advice: do not carry out painting and wedding on the same day (it is hard both physically and mentally)
5 If you are not yet 18 years old, you, alas, will not be married.
6 The permission and blessing of your parents for the wedding is required.
7 If the bride is pregnant, it is imperative to tell the priest about this at communion.
8 Witnesses must be baptized, not divorced or widowed.
9 Newlyweds must be absolutely free from any other marital obligations.
You can only get married on certain days. So, it is categorically impossible to carry out the ceremony on Saturday, on temple and religious holidays.
How to prepare for a wedding
Each temple has its own rules, so consult with the priest what preparations for the wedding ceremony should be for you. The general requirements include the obligatory communion of the young and a seven-day fast (before which it is advisable to confess).
Prepare a towel, candles and red wine. Everything can be purchased right in the temple, but if you want a special, beautiful towel, take a look at our Catalog, there are handmade accessories and craftsmen ready to make a towel for you to order.
Parents can offer icons for blessing.
Rings, according to Christian canons, should be different for the bride and groom: she has gold, he has silver. True, priests are not categorical and often allow newlyweds to use wedding rings at the wedding.
Before the ceremony, you will be asked for a marriage certificate — take it with you.
What you need to know about the rite itself
A trouser suit is not allowed in the bride’s attire, and if the model of your wedding dress exposes your shoulders and back, you will need a cape.
It is better to choose shoes for visiting the church at low speed — the wedding ceremony is long — up to 1.5 hours.
Modesty, modesty and once again modesty — this is the main principle in the make-up and hairstyle of the bride. No bright cosmetics and lipstick, a high hairstyle is useless — you will try, and the scarf will cover it, and the crown will look ugly.
The only requirement for the groom is not to show tattoos and piercings and to remove long hair, if any.
It is desirable that all those present at the ceremony have pectoral crosses, and women have their heads covered.
Mobile phones are turned off during the wedding ceremony!
Posing in the church is strictly prohibited!
Get permission in advance to take photos and videos. Most churches charge a fee.
How is the wedding ceremony
Even before the wedding couple arrive, everything needs to be prepared in the temple: put candles and then light them, bring rings and give them to the clergyman, lay a white towel on which the newlyweds will stand. Have one of your bridesmaids or the groom’s witness do this work.
Young people come to church together (although in the old days the groom was waiting for the bride on the threshold of the church) in advance, 20–30 minutes before the wedding. This is necessary so that you tune in to the right mood, feel the spirit of the sacred and the special atmosphere of the church environment.
The wedding consists of several stages:
Stage 1. The newlyweds enter the temple accompanied by a deacon (the bride to the left of the groom) and stand on a festive towel. The priest comes out, blesses them three times and hands them wedding candles. The newlyweds are baptized three times after each blessing.
Stage 2. Prayers are heard in which, turning to God, the deacon asks for blessings for the newlyweds.
Stage 3. The priest brings out rings on a special tray: on the left — for the bride, and on the right — for the groom. The couple exchange rings three times.
Stage 4. The young people go to the center of the church, following the priest, who asks those who are getting married: did they come to the temple and get married out of their own will. Turning to those present, he asks if anyone has any reason not to want this union.
Stage 5 The deacon reads the prayers again. After this, the bride and groom are dressed in crowns (witnesses hold them over the heads of the newlyweds).
Stage 6 They take out a vessel with wine and the spouses drink it three times ( in small sips). But you need to drink to the bottom.
Stage 7. The priest joins the hands of the newlyweds and circles them three times around the lectern.
Stage 8. The couple approach the Royal Doors, kiss the cross and icons (the icons are taken home after the ceremony). Batiushka says parting words and… the wedding is over!
Tip: holding a bouquet for the bride during the ceremony will be inconvenient, so you can give it to a girlfriend for a while or not take it to church at all.
Walking to the altar, you must remember that this is not just an amazing ceremony, but a very serious and responsible step. A wedding is the blessing of the Lord and your joint desire to live according to his laws.