A business like a wedding requires special preparation and special attention, since this event is a truly large-scale event in the life of every person. It is necessary to carefully think over and organize the celebration, resolve the issue of the number of guests and many other issues on which the happiness of the young directly depends.
Overview of Traditional Wedding Presents
No wedding is complete without gifts for the newlyweds. How not to make a mistake when choosing what gifts to give for a wedding — a brief overview of all kinds of gift options and surprises will help us with this.
Traditionally, wedding gifts for young people consisted of the bride’s dowry and the groom’s ransom. This initial capital became the platform on which married life began. And the subsequent life of the newlyweds depended on what the financial background was. They gave everything that is useful in the house: from a poker to sheets, as well as pets and birds. There were no special prejudices and superstitions in ancient times. It was necessary to live somehow, and everything that was only suitable for the economy was used.
On the second day of the wedding celebration, it was customary to give gifts to the parents of the young — mom and dad: the man gave the mother-in-law and father-in-law, and the young woman — the father-in-law and mother-in-law. Then they walked for several days, at least three, and now they celebrate the wedding on one day, less often two. Rarely did anyone come to the celebration empty-handed. And now this tradition remains in force. Although small, but some kind of gift should be brought to the wedding by each of the invitees.
Basically, they donate various equipment, money and household items for practical purposes. Sometimes apartments and cars, because a wedding is a great occasion for the most expensive gifts. It is also not forbidden to give comic gifts with meaning. Most often, this kind of donation is made on behalf of witnesses. For a wedding, you can give:
- bedding, linen, bedspread and warm blanket;
- kitchen utensils: pots, pans and stewpans, various pots and molds;
- crockery sets: tea, coffee and tableware;
- household appliances and electrical appliances;
- Gift certificates;
- honeymoon vouchers;
- paintings, photo albums, all kinds of trinkets, dolls and figurines on the topic;
- delicacies and fine wines;
These are generally accepted options for gifts from guests. Anything can be added to them. For example, flying in a hot air balloon, airbus. For those who love extreme sports, skydiving, safari for two and other adventures are suitable.
In a word, you can try to do everything possible so that your offering is impressive and remains for a long time in the memory of the young and all those present at the celebration for many years to come. It is important to take into account a number of little things that at first glance seem insignificant, but, in fact, are significant in certain gifts. So, for example, on gold jewelry you can engrave the names of the young with wishes. And present the products themselves along with a rattle or baby knitted booties.
Photos of a married couple in a crystal or in the form of a hologram on frosted glass are a good innovation, which also looks spectacular in any interior. The goddaughter from the godmother can be presented with an antique oil painting ordered from some artist. It is better if it is a portrait of the young. This gift will be a real decoration of the wedding celebration. When you don’t know what to give or don’t know the bride and groom well, money will be the best gift. Instead of a service or a set of bed linen, it is best to give an envelope with banknotes. You can arrange it in various ways. Such gifts are immediately removed from the common table.
Family relics are given to young people on the eve of the wedding, whether it is a great-grandmother’s ring or an old tapestry. Icons and other valuable attributes are consecrated in the church before donation.
Young people should not be given:
- Cutlery sets of knives and forks, as well as other sharp items: collectible swords, daggers, swords and sabers. Shaving kits are also not recommended. It is believed that these things portend quarrels in the family.
- Handkerchiefs and other handkerchiefs from girlfriends to the bride — to tears.
- Antiques, as they carry a specific energy, which has no place at all in the space of the young.
- Any plants, even the most expensive and rare. It is believed that they can adversely affect the continuation of the family.
- Various clocks: wall or manual, as they are a symbol of the transience of time and portend a quick separation for the young.
- Refrain from giving hairpins to the bride, cufflinks and holders for a tie and money to the groom. Even made of precious metals, these objects judge discord in personal life.
- It is considered bad form to give spouses a mirror. This portends an imminent divorce.
- Crystal and other vases, as well as fragile glass items, require special handling. It is considered a bad sign to break a gift, and this is not excluded in a wedding mess. Therefore, it is best not to take risks and give gifts from more durable materials. If you want to give a vase, it is better from metal, wood or even stone. And be sure to fill it with something expensive: red or black caviar, sweets or coins. An empty vase can be associated with emptiness in the lives of the young.
- All bouquets of roses should be checked for thorns and other piercing objects before handing them to the bride. The bride should not be allowed to be injured at the celebration. The spikes are cut off, and the pins holding the wish cards are removed beforehand.
- It is also impossible to give candles, even the most exquisite paired sets and made to order. A candle is a symbol of everything passing, with it the happiness of the young can melt and disappear.
- It is not recommended to donate cooling equipment: air conditioners and fans, as well as refrigerators and freezers. Instead of them, it is better to give certificates to a household appliance store. These items are the personification of the cooling of feelings and portend an imminent parting.
It is best not to take risks, not to tempt fate and not to give such things and objects. At the wedding, there may be very impressionable persons who, with their remarks and comments about gifts, can spoil the mood and celebration. Therefore, you need to foresee everything and prepare well for such a crucial moment as presenting a wedding gift.
Wedding gifts are of two types: paired or each individually: the bride and groom. By the day of the wedding, you should decide on this issue. So, for example, choose lovebird dolls in the form of funny toys or figurines or sets of dishes for two: tea or coffee sets, crystal glasses, perfume sets, jewelry pairs, bathrobes and more.
Each of the newlyweds can give something personal, but at the same time common. It can be sets of dishes for her and sets of tools for him. The bride can be pleased with a certificate for going to a beauty salon, and the groom — in the gym. In one case or another, it is necessary to take into account the tastes, interests and characteristics of the couple.
Gifts can be divided into gifts with meaning, useful and comic, with humor. No one really cares about usefulness. Any of the items will find its application in the life of young people. Everything can fit: from a shovel to pillows. For example, smartphones for young people will always be in place. But with the semantic category, the situation is a little more complicated.
Here you need to make all your intellectual efforts so as not to miss and not get into an awkward situation where jokes are inappropriate. If you don’t know young people well, it’s better not to give semantic symbolic gifts at all. So, giving a brick in a beautiful wrapper can be misinterpreted, especially if the bride or groom is your employee or colleague. In this case, it is best to adhere to symbolic stylized images of young people in various life situations, with comments, wishes and recommendations on special media or in an album.
A good sweet gift with a surprise will be a chocolate cake, in which the keys to the apartment or car are hidden. An unforgettable moment when the bride and groom are served a sweet delicacy, offering to cut it right away. The delight of the young about the discovery will exceed all your expectations.
A wonderful semantic gift will be children’s things, packed in several layers of beautiful wrapping paper. Unpacking them, the young will finally find sliders, pacifiers or undershirts. This is a useful surprise and a direct hint of the imminent appearance of offspring.
Another original gift is a money bank for young people, a symbol of the so-called start-up capital. — the foundations of long and strong family ties. They present ceramic or glass jars with slots for “investments”, where everyone present puts money — as much as they can. A barrel of honey will be an excellent gift, personifying the honeymoon of the young. At the same time, you can hand over tickets for a honeymoon trip to exotic places.
Among the original semantic gifts, one can single out a money tree, star certificates for the discovery of a new star in honor of the union, as well as a family chronicle book with the appropriate attributes — a video camera or any other gadgets. Dinner at an expensive restaurant can also please the young.
As fun gifts with humor, designed to relieve a tense atmosphere, you can give a set of bed linen with detailed instructions for fulfilling your marital duty, a rolling pin and a whip as a relationship stabilizer, a frying pan or a poker to remind you of the need for family discipline and order, a cookbook and a broom — to cook delicious food and keep the house clean. You can hire a professional toastmaster, having previously agreed with the young.
Whatever the gift, the best thing you can give on this day is a good mood and jokes that fill the holiday with friendly participation.
By price category
For everyone who does not have enough finances, but wants to impress at the wedding, symbolic gifts will do. These may include universal budget options designed specifically for these purposes. In any gift shop you can find original heart-shaped dishes, a tea set with swans or small scented pillows with rings and inscriptions, charming shell-shaped candy bowls, themed spice sets, egg coasters, plates and coasters, and much more.
A basket of wine and fruit makes a great gift that won’t cost a lot to buy. A modest set of wine glasses can be supplemented with soft toys, sweets and postcards. Matryoshka dolls, samovars and toy collectible cars with a hint of real ones can be a budget option. A tray with original pastries, muffins and multi-colored biscuits looks good and will be an excellent sweet gift. Do-it-yourself lace, napkins and bedspreads made using the “patchwork” technique will bring warm notes to the festive atmosphere. Spouses will be happy to decorate their home with such a product.
Not everyone can afford to give exclusive and elite gifts. But with a little creativity in every cheap item, it can turn into a great wedding gift.
In order for the gift to become truly memorable, original and unusual, you need to follow some rules. There are some nuances of giving wedding gifts to young people.
- Before donating a technique, you should contact other invited guests so as not to duplicate the gift. And it happens that for a wedding one friend gives a refrigerator and another also a refrigerator. Or, for example, they present three or even four TVs at once.
- Gifts should be wrapped effectively and creatively. At the same time, they must fit into the overall picture of the celebration, and also have signed postcards: who gives and to whom. Beautiful and witty, they will be a good reminder of the happiest moment in the life of the young.
- Wedding mementos need to be given properly. This is a whole art. The donation is accompanied by impromptu scenes from family life, reading of heartfelt poems, sayings and parting words, musical numbers, songs and dances.
- You should find out from the young people in advance in what place and style the wedding celebration will be held in order to properly arrange the gift and create a special entourage.
- Instead of flowers, you can present the bride with a basket with sweet filling: sweets, sweets in the form of hearts and lollipops.
- In all cases, courage and creativity are welcome.
Items and souvenirs
At the wedding, it is customary to give various things, souvenirs and memorable gifts. The target gift will be a photo album, which is a traditional wedding gift. It may not even be specially packaged. It contains family photographs, this is a kind of chronicle of the family in chronological order.
For congratulations on the wedding day in the original genre, brick, money tree and booties are used. When handing over, they solemnly give the head of the family a brick — for building their own house, a tree — for improving well-being, and booties — for the birth of healthy children. The congratulations are accompanied by traditional words: “Every man is obliged to do three things in his life: build a house, plant a tree and raise a son.”
As a wish for prosperity and wealth, they give a chest with banknotes, jewelry and coins. This symbolic gift comes in handy for young people who are in special need of material assistance. The old Russian custom of giving a chest has been preserved to this day. It is decorated with beads, original embroidery, satin ribbons, flowers and everything that is at hand. The chest will not remain unused and will delight its owners for many years to come.
In a gift basket, along with fruits and sweets, you can put family life instructions and certificates of a husband and wife with official duties, as well as a bag of salt and sugar with wishes to be together in joy and sorrow. For bed linen, you can order family monograms or a photo portrait of the young. Original ideas are not limited to family themes. You can also use any other motifs, such as sequins, sequins and star rhinestones all over the duvet cover.
Dolls representing the bride and groom will be one of the best gifts. You can order copies of the newlyweds, or you can try to make them yourself, having basic handicraft skills.
Among the intangible gifts, you can present a dance or a song of your favorite artist. You can perform them yourself, but it is best to invite professionals for this. Please note that a choir to chamber music and a gypsy camp will be extremely inappropriate in a wedding setting. Hire a dancing couple, let them perform an incendiary tango and a couple of encore dances. And at the end of the performance, you can listen to a soulful song and even dance a slow dance for the newlyweds.
As a gift, a flash mob with the participation of all invited persons can become. You can come up with original ideas for this yourself, or you can turn to specialists. Anyone can become a participant in the performance, it is enough to bring them up to date and give the necessary settings. For example, create a carnival night, undressed in Renaissance costumes, or organize an alien parade with the participation of famous movie characters. Anything you want, only with the obligatory dedication of the young to your plans. With this in mind, any holiday becomes unforgettable. Children will especially be delighted with cartoon characters and animators.
A photo shoot in nature or in an elite mansion will also be an interesting gift. To do this, you need to hire a professional photographer, choose in advance the time and place of the shooting. Properly edited photos and videos can be viewed at a wedding celebration in the presence of guests.
What can you give to people who have everything?
For a gift to a rich couple, you can use custom-made items. These can be macrame products, jewelry made of beads, precious woods, inlaid eggs, ceramic figurines, collectible wines and much more. You can give a box with butterflies, symbolizing happiness. Cute white thoroughbred kittens in the basket will also be a pleasant surprise. Goldfish in the aquarium will also please the young. After all, when you have everything, only unfulfilled desires remain.
How to make beautiful packaging?
When the gift is chosen and ready, it remains to pack it beautifully. Experts can come to the rescue, but you can try to do it yourself. First of all, you need to consider the purpose of the gift, its value, as well as the style of the celebration in which he will have to participate. He, among others, will be placed on a gift table, where he will be in full view. Therefore, you should try to decorate the gift as best as possible.
If this is a small item, you can use expensive fabric such as brocade, satin and organza. The combination of these textures perfectly emphasizes the solemnity of the situation. You can also provide it with wedding attributes: a veil and a black bow. It will look especially advantageous on paired gifts. Large and medium gifts are wrapped in gift paper using hearts, ribbons, flowers and tinsel as decor.
A gift wrapped in white paper and tied with a white ribbon looks original. You can add a completely white card to this, and a one-of-a-kind surprise is ready. A photo album can be presented in wrapping paper with a newspaper print, tied with twine, and a stylized bow made of film can be placed on top. Ideas can be different, the main thing is not to overdo it so that the packaging does not come out more expensive than a gift.
What song to sing during the presentation?
If you have a hearing and have a desire to adequately congratulate the young, you can sing a song in their honor. Most often, it is part of a surprise and is presented along with a gift. Here it is important not to miss the choice of repertoire. It is best to limit yourself to traditional pop wedding songs. Leave the Russian folk for later. It is also better not to sing along with the phonogram. Gypsy tunes and national songs will also be inappropriate, the meaning of which will not be understood by everyone. The exception is thematic weddings, say, only Armenian or Greek, where you can sing a soulful song in your native language in a close circle.
In a mixed crowd, it’s best to stick with the tried-and-true classics. When presenting a gift, you can ask a professional to sing or simply ask the presenter to turn on the appropriate music. Against this background, you can safely present your gift. By adhering to these simple tips and recommendations, you can confidently choose and give worthy gifts to the newlyweds. Good luck and good luck with your choice!
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