A wedding is not just a celebration. This is a tribute to traditions, a kind of ritual of honoring a new family, which has come down to us from time immemorial. And as it should be for any sacrament, it has its inalienable attributes.
One of the leading roles in the wedding ceremony is played by flowers. They are present everywhere — in the decoration of the hall, the hood of the newlyweds’ car, in the bride’s hair. And, of course, in the hands of the guests.
And if a wedding is a ritual, then the flowers on it are a symbolism. Therefore, it is so important to choose the right bouquet as a gift for the newlyweds, to express your wishes and good feelings with the help of flowers. And also try to make the bouquet to your taste, be as original as possible and not get lost in the sea of other wedding flowers.
General requirements for composition
The wedding bouquet should fit into the concept of the wedding and serve not only as a manifestation of the originality of the donor. Rather, the bouquet will correspond to the formula: wedding flowers are a wish of happiness to the newlyweds, captured in natural beauty.
There are some unspoken rules for making wedding bouquets. It also does not hurt to know that in each country and national culture, these rules may vary to one degree or another. Therefore, having received an invitation to a wedding abroad, it is advisable to get acquainted with the cultural characteristics of the inviting party, as well as their wedding traditions and the language of flowers, which is honored by the locals.
Our country has developed its own language of flowers and requirements, which are customary to comply with at all solemn events.
For wedding ceremonies they are as follows.
- The bouquet must be appropriate. It should be clarified in advance in what environment the event will take place. For a classic wedding in a luxurious restaurant, a bouquet of wild flowers is not suitable, even if it seems sweet and sincere.
- It would be useful to take into account the time and place of delivery of the bouquet. If you plan to congratulate the newlyweds after the wedding ceremony in the registry office, then it is better that the bouquet is of the usual, convenient form. If the guest is invited immediately to the restaurant, then it would be more practical to present a beautiful basket of flowers, which can be placed in a conspicuous place and not look for a place for a bouquet.
- Flowers should not be scattered. They are fastened either with gift wrapping or floristic fasteners, so that when presented, the bouquet does not crumble in the hands of the bride and does not cause an awkward fuss. It should be borne in mind that the moment of giving is most often common to everyone, and the bride and groom will have to accept a huge number of flowers at once.
- Opaque wrapping material must be removed from the flowers before delivery. Only transparent mica packaging is allowed, serving as a holder and decoration.
- The number of large flowers in a bouquet must necessarily be odd, since an even number is traditionally placed in memory of the departed.
This is an important rule that should be taken carefully so as not to put yourself in an awkward position and not spoil the mood of the newlyweds.
There are no strict requirements for the floral gifts of nature — each flower is beautiful in its own way, and everyone has different tastes. But it is not customary to give flowers of dark shades for a wedding, no matter how chic they may seem. According to the wedding tradition, the dominant color at the celebration is white. It symbolizes the purity of thoughts and tender feelings of the newlyweds.
Cream, milky, pink, lilac, pale blue, lilac — for wedding bouquets, the whole range of white and pastel colors is at the disposal of donors.
The exception is exclusive weddings where an original style or a specific color is planned. For example, an informal wedding in the Gothic style, a wedding in nature or ethno style, a costume wedding. But as a rule, the spouses inform the invitees about such details in advance.
It is worth noting that the floral rule about pastel colors does not have a strict framework. It is rather a good tradition, a tribute to the bride’s wedding dress. For lovers of bright colors in bouquets, the seasonal option is suitable. After all, the bouquet can be beaten in the spirit of the season.
- Spring is characterized by delicate shades of lily of the valley or lilac. The awakening of nature, as a symbol of the emerging new family. After a long winter, young greenery is especially pleasing to the eye, so there can be a lot of it in a bouquet. For example, sprigs of asparagus or ornamental fern.
- In winter, solemn white flowers will look great, as if crystal from frost. It is desirable that they be of noble varieties — roses, lilies, orchids. Or, on the contrary, you can choose lively and bright colors, as a symbol of a sunny summer in a frosty winter.
- In autumn, colors of warm shades of red and gold are appropriate, because this is the time for harvest, and as a symbol of abundance and prosperity for a new married couple. In late autumn, when winter has not yet come into its own, and nature is rather dull, the bright colors of flowers will decorate the celebration.
- Summer is a time of flowering, a variety of flower choices. At this time of the year, it is best to focus on the general rules or on the preferences of the heroes of the occasion. If the weather is very hot, then the color scheme of the bouquet can be refreshing in spring, without an overabundance of bright colors. But in a cloudy summer, a bouquet with rich colors will warm the bride and add a festive mood to everyone present.
Making bouquets is a whole science, which, however, you can master on your own. The main thing is taste and sense of proportion. The splendor of the composition depends on the number of flowers in the bouquet, but an overabundance of colors and elements leads to coarseness and slovenliness.
A few simple rules will warn against the mistake of turning a stylish bouquet into a tasteless “broom”:
- if the bouquet consists of several large flowers (roses, peonies, gerberas) and many small ones, then there should be at least 3–5 large elements;
- exquisite bouquets of small roses are in the amount of 25–27 pieces;
- compositions consisting only of large flowers (for example, gerberas or peonies), in an ideal proportion, have 9–11 pieces.
In the modern world, wedding traditions are still strong, despite all the newfangled trends. A tradition that has developed over the past hundred years regarding certain colors is considered a classic. A hundred years is a conditional period of time, but it was with the advent of the twentieth century, with the advent of registry offices and other social institutions in our country, that some flowers acquired an unspoken status of belonging to certain events.
So, in the hierarchy of wedding flowers, the rose is the undisputed leader, the queen of the ball. But tulips in our country for a long time were considered unpretentious flowers on duty, which it was customary to present at official celebrations of the middle class. But there is another side of the coin — tulips are considered a symbol of spring and eternal youth. And also, along with mimosa, they are a traditional gift for the women’s holiday on March 8. They are suitable for a modest spring wedding, especially if the event takes place in a narrow circle of close people.
The fate of carnations was less successful — red ones became a symbol of political events, and white ones — funeral ceremonies. But today it is quite acceptable to give a large lush bouquet of white carnations on not very long stems for a wedding.
Times are changing, and in our time, many are destroying past stereotypes, but if you are not sure that you will be correctly understood at the celebration, it is better to keep these nuances in mind.
Language of wedding flowers
Let’s return to symbolism and consider the language of flowers in the context of actual classics. The science of fluorography, in the common people — the language of flowers, came to us from the East and has been firmly entrenched in European culture since the Middle Ages. Flowers served as symbols and could tell what was not customary to speak out loud. With the advent of industrialization and the emancipation of society, this romantic science, it would seem, has sunk into oblivion. But on the threshold of the 21st century, interest in her revived with renewed vigor, the materials of the past were studied, and today any self-respecting florist can tell, What does a particular flower symbolize?
- Rose — an unconditional symbol of love and nobility in all ages. Since the time of knights and beautiful ladies, this flower has been an invariable attribute of all lovers. Red roses symbolize passion, while white roses symbolize purity and platonic feelings. In wedding traditions, white roses are used most often in the bride’s bouquet, and for a gift bouquet from guests, you can choose pink, cream or a gradient (transition from one color to another).
It is worth avoiding maroon and scarlet roses in bouquets for a young couple, as this color scheme is more suitable for older people, as well as for other events.
- Peony — a lush flower with a wonderful aroma, in the language of flowers means a sweet cheerful life, a wish of good luck and joy. In the countries of the East, he is credited with magical properties aimed at attracting wealth and honors. A wedding bouquet with peonies always turns out to be chic, fragrant and festive.
However, it should be remembered that the splendor of peonies is very short-lived, and the flowers themselves are capricious and subject to rapid withering without water. Therefore, if long walks are planned at the wedding ceremony, then for a bouquet it is better to take peonies in buds that have not yet opened.
- Lily. A noble flower, not inferior in its grandeur to a rose. It has a rich history in heraldry, symbolizes material luxury, respectability and high demands. No wonder the lily has been the emblem of French royalty throughout almost its entire history. Lilies look gorgeous in any bouquet, and white lilies as a gift for newlyweds are the height of grace and grace.
But do not forget that these flowers have a strong specific smell, and in a small room they can create a suffocating effect and cause a headache.
- Orchid. It entered the wedding fashion relatively recently, for a long time remaining an exotic flower for our fellow citizens. Exquisite orchid buds are a symbol of sophistication and luxurious femininity. They are among the three “royal” symbols, but unlike roses and lilies, the price of orchids is incredibly high. This is due to the peculiarities and difficulties associated with growing a plant.
But if there is a goal to emphasize the sophistication and individual femininity of the bride, feel free to choose an orchid!
- Gerbera — the perfect gift choice for a cheerful couple. These bright fresh flowers keep their shape perfectly and seem to exude positive and good mood. They symbolize youth, joy of life, openness to the world. Gerberas look good both in a general bouquet in the same color scheme, and on their own.
Multi-colored gerberas in a bouquet look perky and cheerful, while plain ones look very stylish and fresh.
From colleagues and friends
For guests invited to the wedding of a colleague or a distant relative, it will be quite enough to confine themselves to the usual bouquet and general requirements for the composition. There is no need to think over the original design, in this case, flowers are a symbol of respect and wishes for happiness. The bouquet will take its place among other donated flowers, and this will also become a kind of contribution and symbolism.
After all, the entire wedding flower garden symbolizes the prosperity and abundance of a young family, so the more flowers, the better.
Close friends of the groom and bridesmaids are the circle closest to the newlyweds. From them, a young couple receives attention and support on this day, it is they who become the instigators of the holiday, its most active participants. Bouquets of friends are filled with special meanings, like encrypted messages and unspoken assurances of sincere friendship.
For close people, choosing the right option is not difficult, given the preferences of the newlyweds. The groom’s friends can inquire about the tastes of the friend’s bride in advance, and at the wedding please her with their “guess”. It is even easier for the bridesmaids to decide on a bouquet — it can be flowers that match the wedding dress or the style of the banquet hall.
The parents of the bride and groom at the wedding ceremony have the honorary status of patriarchs of the celebration, because their children themselves enter adulthood today and create a new family. For many dads and moms, this is a day of happiness with tears of joy in their eyes, happy emotions and experiences.
The bride will be especially pleased to receive flowers from the groom’s parents, symbolizing good feelings and readiness to accept her into her family. For a bouquet, any delicate buds of pastel colors are suitable. It can be graceful lilies, delicate hydrangea, bright peonies.
If preference is given to solemn roses, then care should be taken to remove the thorns from them. And also roses can be presented in a beautiful decorative basket.
It is important for the bride’s parents to present a bouquet intended not only for their daughter, but also for their son-in-law. It is worth showing a little imagination and taste in order to combine the wishes of the newlyweds in flowers. For example, to beat a bouquet in contrasting colors, like yin-yang symbols. Of course, black is excluded in wedding bouquets, but it is quite possible to use bright red as a symbol of masculinity or blue as the color of respectability. Combining these flowers with feminine pink or blue will emphasize the dual symbolism of the bouquet.
The presentation of such a bouquet can be accompanied by an additional explanation and wishes for harmony in family life.
Fresh flowers are constant companions of any wedding ceremony, but there will always be a guest who wants to become the most original in his wishes to the newlyweds. For an experienced florist or just a person with imagination and taste, nothing is impossible! It is enough just to grab the original idea by the tail and turn it into a chic bouquet.
- From flowers. Petals of plain buds can be decorated with transparent or mirror crystals of rhinestones, reminiscent of dew drops. A bouquet with multi-colored rhinestones is also suitable for a gift — they will shimmer and attract attention. Recently, the service of decorating petals with pictures or inscriptions has appeared on the floristic market. This option can be a very unusual gift if you express a wish for happiness on a bud of a single-colored large flower. You can also transfer a small copy of a photo of a couple to a large calla petal, for example.
- From candy. A chic confectionery bouquet will not leave indifferent not only the bride and groom, but also everyone around. A candy gift can be made in the form of a lush bouquet — in this case, sweets are attached to long skewers and decorated with satin ribbons. Another option is checkout in the shopping cart. It is important to consider here that it is not enough to put sweets in a container, they also need to be decorated with flowers.
It is even possible to combine sweets with fresh flowers that match the color of the wrapper.
- From soft toys. Cute teddy bears and bunnies can be an original gift for a very young bride. They are designed to evoke a feeling of tenderness and tenderness. Often, additional details are attached to such small toys in the form of bows and hearts with wishes or confessions.
You can use soft toys in a bouquet in a composition with sweets and natural flowers.
- From decorative materials. Depending on the season of the wedding, the preferences of the newlyweds and the style of the event, you can use non-standard elements to decorate the bouquet. For summer compositions, shells, multi-colored feathers of exotic birds will be an excellent addition. In autumn bouquets, spikelets of wheat will be appropriate as a symbol of fertility. Winter compositions can be decorated with cones with superficial hoarfrost, thin sprigs of pine needles.
What can’t be donated?
Each culture has its own unspoken rules, according to which certain flowers become persona non grata at wedding ceremonies. In our country, all yellow flowers are subjected to such, perhaps unfair “persecution”. They are considered to be a symbol of separation. Although, for example, in the UK, yellow flowers are a symbol of the sun and a joyful life.
Flowers of black and dark purple tones are excluded from wedding bouquets. Black is the color of sorrow and purple is the color of sadness.
However, both black and purple flowers can be very stylish and sophisticated.
It is not customary to give artificial flowers made of plastic for a wedding. Recently, flowers made of printed satin or flowing silk have come into fashion, but here you need to be careful — the newlyweds may not share the enthusiasm for such innovations.
Dried herbariums, potted flowers and any sharp plants that can hurt are not suitable for a gift.
You should ask in advance if the newlyweds are allergic to certain flowers. It is also advisable to make sure that the bouquet does not contain flowers with abundant pollen — it can stain the bride’s dress.
How to choose a bouquet of flowers for a wedding, see the following video.