wedding gifts

Ideas for practical and original wedding gifts for parents from newlyweds

The wed­ding of their own child is, per­haps, for most par­ents an event no less impor­tant than his birth. Yes, and var­i­ous trou­bles, the finan­cial costs of this event often fall on the shoul­ders of the fathers and moth­ers of the bride and groom. As a rule, one of the first toasts is pro­nounced for them at a fes­tive ban­quet, and it would be use­ful to please their par­ents with a spe­cial gift.

Traditional Options

Pre­sent­ing a present to par­ents from the new­ly­weds is an old Slav­ic sign. Thus, the bride and groom thanked each oth­er’s par­ents for rais­ing and rais­ing a son or daugh­ter. In the east, there was (and in remote regions still exists) a tra­di­tion of pay­ing bride price for a girl. A wed­ding dowry is a rather rich offer­ing meant specif­i­cal­ly for the bride’s fam­i­ly. As a rule, these are cat­tle, wine, mon­ey, car­pets, crops.

In Slav­ic fam­i­lies, accord­ing to tra­di­tion, par­ents were usu­al­ly thanked and giv­en gifts on the sec­ond day of the wed­ding. On this day, they were trans­port­ed around the vil­lage on a dec­o­rat­ed cart, jokes, songs and jokes were ded­i­cat­ed to them, and gifts were also pre­sent­ed. The lat­ter were often with an erot­ic hint — as a wish to have anoth­er child in return for hav­ing cre­at­ed his own fam­i­ly. In oth­er words, the young peo­ple devot­ed the sec­ond day to their par­ents, as well as close rel­a­tives (grand­par­ents).

For mom and dad of the groom

Accord­ing to tra­di­tion, the bride gave the groom’s par­ents hand-made things. Usu­al­ly it was home­spun tex­tiles, embroi­dered tow­els, table­cloths. Thus, the girl demon­strat­ed her own abil­i­ties in needle­work, house­keep­ing.

Fol­low­ing this tra­di­tion, a gift from new­ly­weds to par­ents can be home tex­tiles: cur­tains, blan­kets, car­pets, tow­els. A set of bed or table linen will be appro­pri­ate. Name embroi­dery will help to give the present orig­i­nal­i­ty. Since few mod­ern young ladies have the abil­i­ty to embroi­der and free time, it is wis­er to order machine embroi­dery in a spe­cial­ized salon.

Always appro­pri­ate, and most impor­tant­ly — a wel­come and pleas­ant gift will be the one that is asso­ci­at­ed with the pas­sion of par­ents. If the future moth­er-in-law is fond of cook­ing, then she will obvi­ous­ly be delight­ed with cook­books in a deluxe edi­tion, dish­es, bak­ing dish­es, a set of spices or rare oils. If, on the con­trary, you want to ease the house­hold duties of the “sec­ond moth­er”, give her a bread machine, slow cook­er, dish­wash­er or oth­er house­hold appli­ances. It is dif­fi­cult to find a woman who will not be pleased with such gifts.

An appro­pri­ate gift for a mar­ried cou­ple is a ser­vice. It is not nec­es­sary to present expen­sive porce­lain sets con­sist­ing of many items. Even a small tea or cof­fee set, select­ed with atten­tion and pre­sent­ed with the words that your young fam­i­ly is wait­ing for an invi­ta­tion to a fam­i­ly tea par­ty to the father-in-law and moth­er-in-law, will look sym­bol­ic and cute.

If you want the new­ly-made moth­er-in-law to remem­ber you with a kind word, give her good tea or cof­fee. Do not be stingy and choose a wor­thy option by pur­chas­ing it in large quan­ti­ties. Every time, want­i­ng to taste tea or cof­fee and enjoy­ing its taste, the groom’s par­ents will remem­ber the donors.

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If funds allow, present jew­el­ry made in the same style to the par­ents of the future hus­band. You can pick up ear­rings for mom, and cuf­flinks for dad. The main thing is that the jew­el­ry is not a fake or cheap jew­el­ry.

If you do not have mon­ey for expen­sive and impres­sive things, it is bet­ter to choose anoth­er gift option. You should do the same if you are afraid to “miss” with the style of jew­el­ry.

For the father and mother of the bride

In the old days, after mar­riage, a girl moved into the groom’s fam­i­ly, so the num­ber of work­ers in her own fam­i­ly decreased. Today, you can play around with this by giv­ing the girl’s father and moth­er an “auto­mat­ic assis­tant.” An excel­lent option is a mul­ti­cook­er. Of the larg­er gifts, a dish­wash­er or wash­ing machine, a refrig­er­a­tor, etc. are suit­able.

The tex­tile sets described above will also be a good present. (bed linen, table­cloths, tow­els, etc.). No less sym­bol­ic present will be beau­ti­ful dish­es. Demon­strate your con­cern for the health of your par­ents — a heater, humid­i­fi­er, mas­sager or salt lamp will undoubt­ed­ly please them.

The groom can present a bou­quet to his moth­er-in-law, and if she is fond of flori­cul­ture, he can give her a rare indoor flower. You can give the father-in-law elite alco­hol.

Both the par­ents of the groom and the par­ents of the bride will be delight­ed with vouch­ers to the sana­to­ri­um, cin­e­ma tick­ets, sub­scrip­tions to the gym, swim­ming pool, phil­har­mon­ic soci­ety. If funds allow, you can pur­chase a sub­ur­ban area for them, or even bet­ter — a cot­tage with ready-made build­ings and plant­i­ngs.

At this age, by the way, many peo­ple have dachas and lit­er­al­ly live there. In this case, you can give them tools and equip­ment that make their work eas­i­er (lawn mow­er, auto­mat­ic water­ing sys­tem). The pre­sent­ed bra­zier for fry­ing meat will also be suc­cess­ful. Gifts in the form of dec­o­ra­tive ele­ments would be appro­pri­ate: gar­den lights, dec­o­ra­tions for flower beds, small forged bench­es.

DIY Presents

Hand­made presents are not a way to save mon­ey, but an indi­ca­tor that you tried very hard, want­ed to present some­thing tru­ly sym­bol­ic and unique. As a rule, young peo­ple have a lot of trou­ble before the wed­ding and almost no free time, so if they cre­at­ed a col­lage on paper or baked a cake as a gift to their par­ents, this indi­cates their respect and strong love for dad and mom.

In the ban­quet hall, you can hang old pho­tos from the fam­i­ly album in advance, accom­pa­ny­ing them with touch­ing inscrip­tions for par­ents. You can cre­ate a kind of steam loco­mo­tive by cut­ting trail­ers out of paper. On each car­riage, you can attach a pho­to of the bride and groom from birth. The loco­mo­tive is mount­ed on the wall at the entrance to the ban­quet hall.

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As you move to the places of the par­ents, the pho­tos replace each oth­er and show how the chil­dren grew up, the fam­i­ly changed. Direct­ly near the appli­ances, in the place where the moth­ers and fathers of the young will sit, you can put a pho­to in a frame. Young peo­ple can take pic­tures with their par­ents a few days before the wed­ding, but it will be even more inter­est­ing if you do it in the reg­istry office.

Nat­u­ral­ly, such a present requires a lot of prepa­ra­tion and the pres­ence of assis­tants. But that’s what makes it even more valu­able.

You can bake a cake or a pie, the main thing is to do it your­self. You can attach a play­ful note to the pie, explain­ing its com­po­si­tion, the des­ig­na­tion of each of the ingre­di­ents. For exam­ple: “to express our love, we put ripe fra­grant straw­ber­ries in the cake, and to show respect, we poured it with a del­i­cate souf­flé made from nat­ur­al cream.” Undoubt­ed­ly, even with an abun­dance of snacks and treats on the table, par­ents will be hap­py to take cakes (they will have to be pre­pared in 2 copies) home to taste them in the morn­ing.

Unusual ideas and surprises

Most par­ents, as soon as they talk about the wed­ding of their beloved child, begin to look for­ward to their grand­chil­dren. In this regard, young peo­ple can present them with an orange tree. It sym­bol­izes fam­i­ly com­fort, the con­ti­nu­ity of gen­er­a­tions. The gift can be accom­pa­nied by a play­ful promise that just as an orange tree is cov­ered with fruits (and it bears fruit all year round), so your par­ents will be sur­round­ed by grand­chil­dren.

How­ev­er, if the spous­es are very young, and their par­ents want them to fin­ish their stud­ies and take place in their careers first, such a gift can scare them.

Medals, cups, diplo­mas pre­sent­ed to par­ents will be orig­i­nal. The main thing is to truth­ful­ly and at the same time sin­cere­ly deter­mine the nom­i­na­tion for each of the par­ents. In this case, in the sce­nario of the hol­i­day, it is bet­ter to allo­cate a spe­cial place for the gift-giv­ing cer­e­mo­ny. The bride can say words of grat­i­tude to her par­ents and explain the mean­ing of the nom­i­na­tion, and the groom can solemn­ly present the award. Then he thanks his fam­i­ly in the same way, and the bride is already in charge of pre­sent­ing medals or cups.

Bou­quets of sweets and fruits look orig­i­nal. The main thing is that they are not opened or dam­aged. It is unlike­ly that par­ents will start tast­ing an unusu­al gift at a ban­quet, where there are already a lot of treats. But they will be able to take it home and try it for 2–3 days after the wed­ding.

What is better not to give?

Before talk­ing about unwant­ed gifts, it is worth not­ing that the gifts to the par­ents of the groom and the par­ents of the bride should be equiv­a­lent. If some receive house­hold appli­ances, then it is desir­able for the sec­ond to present some­thing like that.

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It is bet­ter to choose gifts for young par­ents togeth­er. This brings togeth­er, allows you to get to know your part­ner’s fam­i­ly bet­ter. In addi­tion, the bride can stop a young man in time if, for exam­ple, he is going to buy flow­ers for his moth­er-in-law, to which she is aller­gic.

Above, we talked about the oppor­tu­ni­ty to give a ser­vice or a tea pair, but it is bet­ter to refuse pots and pans as a gift to par­ents. It looks too ordi­nary, and a woman can see in such a gift a sub­tle hint that her place is in the kitchen.

No need to give gifts that can cause dis­agree­ments in the fam­i­ly. For exam­ple, if the father of the bride or groom is a pas­sion­ate fish­er­man and con­stant­ly dis­ap­pears on a lake or riv­er, and his wife relent­less­ly “nags” him for it, it is bet­ter not to give a spin­ning rod, waders or a fold­ing chair. The head of the fam­i­ly will want to imme­di­ate­ly test all this in action, once again “sneak­ing away” from the house, for which the new­ly­weds will be indi­rect­ly to blame.

Tak­ing care of the health of par­ents is always com­mend­able. Above is a list of pre­sen­ta­tions from this group. How­ev­er, they are worth stop­ping by. It is not rec­om­mend­ed to give med­i­cines, cer­tifi­cates for an appoint­ment with a doc­tor (even a very good or paid one), means for mea­sur­ing pres­sure, sug­ar lev­els. All these items, if there is a need for them, it is bet­ter to buy moms and dads for no rea­son.

If you believe the tra­di­tions, then you can not give watch­es, open objects, mir­rors. Accord­ing to beliefs, they can bring dis­cord into the fam­i­ly. Even if you your­self do not believe in omens, it is quite pos­si­ble that your par­ents, being peo­ple of the old­er gen­er­a­tion, will see an unkind sign in such pre­sen­ta­tions.

When choos­ing gifts, it is impor­tant to approach this respon­si­bly — find out the wish­es, take into account per­son­al pref­er­ences, fam­i­ly tra­di­tions. By choos­ing gifts at the last moment, you run the risk of pur­chas­ing com­plete­ly unnec­es­sary items. If you give some­thing cheap, you will give the impres­sion that you are giv­ing presents exclu­sive­ly for show. A sim­i­lar impres­sion will be cre­at­ed even if you give peo­ple an expen­sive but use­less thing (for exam­ple, a refrig­er­a­tor, if your par­ents have recent­ly bought such equip­ment).

It is not rec­om­mend­ed to give clothes and shoes to par­ents. Such gifts, accord­ing to eti­quette, can only be pre­sent­ed to each oth­er by close rel­a­tives. On the wed­ding day, usu­al­ly the daugh­ter’s fiancé or the son’s bride is not yet so dear to the moth­ers and fathers of their “halves”.

For infor­ma­tion on what to give par­ents from the new­ly­weds, see below.