The wedding of their own child is, perhaps, for most parents an event no less important than his birth. Yes, and various troubles, the financial costs of this event often fall on the shoulders of the fathers and mothers of the bride and groom. As a rule, one of the first toasts is pronounced for them at a festive banquet, and it would be useful to please their parents with a special gift.
Presenting a present to parents from the newlyweds is an old Slavic sign. Thus, the bride and groom thanked each other’s parents for raising and raising a son or daughter. In the east, there was (and in remote regions still exists) a tradition of paying bride price for a girl. A wedding dowry is a rather rich offering meant specifically for the bride’s family. As a rule, these are cattle, wine, money, carpets, crops.
In Slavic families, according to tradition, parents were usually thanked and given gifts on the second day of the wedding. On this day, they were transported around the village on a decorated cart, jokes, songs and jokes were dedicated to them, and gifts were also presented. The latter were often with an erotic hint — as a wish to have another child in return for having created his own family. In other words, the young people devoted the second day to their parents, as well as close relatives (grandparents).
For mom and dad of the groom
According to tradition, the bride gave the groom’s parents hand-made things. Usually it was homespun textiles, embroidered towels, tablecloths. Thus, the girl demonstrated her own abilities in needlework, housekeeping.
Following this tradition, a gift from newlyweds to parents can be home textiles: curtains, blankets, carpets, towels. A set of bed or table linen will be appropriate. Name embroidery will help to give the present originality. Since few modern young ladies have the ability to embroider and free time, it is wiser to order machine embroidery in a specialized salon.
Always appropriate, and most importantly — a welcome and pleasant gift will be the one that is associated with the passion of parents. If the future mother-in-law is fond of cooking, then she will obviously be delighted with cookbooks in a deluxe edition, dishes, baking dishes, a set of spices or rare oils. If, on the contrary, you want to ease the household duties of the “second mother”, give her a bread machine, slow cooker, dishwasher or other household appliances. It is difficult to find a woman who will not be pleased with such gifts.
An appropriate gift for a married couple is a service. It is not necessary to present expensive porcelain sets consisting of many items. Even a small tea or coffee set, selected with attention and presented with the words that your young family is waiting for an invitation to a family tea party to the father-in-law and mother-in-law, will look symbolic and cute.
If you want the newly-made mother-in-law to remember you with a kind word, give her good tea or coffee. Do not be stingy and choose a worthy option by purchasing it in large quantities. Every time, wanting to taste tea or coffee and enjoying its taste, the groom’s parents will remember the donors.
If funds allow, present jewelry made in the same style to the parents of the future husband. You can pick up earrings for mom, and cufflinks for dad. The main thing is that the jewelry is not a fake or cheap jewelry.
If you do not have money for expensive and impressive things, it is better to choose another gift option. You should do the same if you are afraid to “miss” with the style of jewelry.
For the father and mother of the bride
In the old days, after marriage, a girl moved into the groom’s family, so the number of workers in her own family decreased. Today, you can play around with this by giving the girl’s father and mother an “automatic assistant.” An excellent option is a multicooker. Of the larger gifts, a dishwasher or washing machine, a refrigerator, etc. are suitable.
The textile sets described above will also be a good present. (bed linen, tablecloths, towels, etc.). No less symbolic present will be beautiful dishes. Demonstrate your concern for the health of your parents — a heater, humidifier, massager or salt lamp will undoubtedly please them.
The groom can present a bouquet to his mother-in-law, and if she is fond of floriculture, he can give her a rare indoor flower. You can give the father-in-law elite alcohol.
Both the parents of the groom and the parents of the bride will be delighted with vouchers to the sanatorium, cinema tickets, subscriptions to the gym, swimming pool, philharmonic society. If funds allow, you can purchase a suburban area for them, or even better — a cottage with ready-made buildings and plantings.
At this age, by the way, many people have dachas and literally live there. In this case, you can give them tools and equipment that make their work easier (lawn mower, automatic watering system). The presented brazier for frying meat will also be successful. Gifts in the form of decorative elements would be appropriate: garden lights, decorations for flower beds, small forged benches.
Handmade presents are not a way to save money, but an indicator that you tried very hard, wanted to present something truly symbolic and unique. As a rule, young people have a lot of trouble before the wedding and almost no free time, so if they created a collage on paper or baked a cake as a gift to their parents, this indicates their respect and strong love for dad and mom.
In the banquet hall, you can hang old photos from the family album in advance, accompanying them with touching inscriptions for parents. You can create a kind of steam locomotive by cutting trailers out of paper. On each carriage, you can attach a photo of the bride and groom from birth. The locomotive is mounted on the wall at the entrance to the banquet hall.
As you move to the places of the parents, the photos replace each other and show how the children grew up, the family changed. Directly near the appliances, in the place where the mothers and fathers of the young will sit, you can put a photo in a frame. Young people can take pictures with their parents a few days before the wedding, but it will be even more interesting if you do it in the registry office.
Naturally, such a present requires a lot of preparation and the presence of assistants. But that’s what makes it even more valuable.
You can bake a cake or a pie, the main thing is to do it yourself. You can attach a playful note to the pie, explaining its composition, the designation of each of the ingredients. For example: “to express our love, we put ripe fragrant strawberries in the cake, and to show respect, we poured it with a delicate soufflé made from natural cream.” Undoubtedly, even with an abundance of snacks and treats on the table, parents will be happy to take cakes (they will have to be prepared in 2 copies) home to taste them in the morning.
Unusual ideas and surprises
Most parents, as soon as they talk about the wedding of their beloved child, begin to look forward to their grandchildren. In this regard, young people can present them with an orange tree. It symbolizes family comfort, the continuity of generations. The gift can be accompanied by a playful promise that just as an orange tree is covered with fruits (and it bears fruit all year round), so your parents will be surrounded by grandchildren.
However, if the spouses are very young, and their parents want them to finish their studies and take place in their careers first, such a gift can scare them.
Medals, cups, diplomas presented to parents will be original. The main thing is to truthfully and at the same time sincerely determine the nomination for each of the parents. In this case, in the scenario of the holiday, it is better to allocate a special place for the gift-giving ceremony. The bride can say words of gratitude to her parents and explain the meaning of the nomination, and the groom can solemnly present the award. Then he thanks his family in the same way, and the bride is already in charge of presenting medals or cups.
Bouquets of sweets and fruits look original. The main thing is that they are not opened or damaged. It is unlikely that parents will start tasting an unusual gift at a banquet, where there are already a lot of treats. But they will be able to take it home and try it for 2–3 days after the wedding.
What is better not to give?
Before talking about unwanted gifts, it is worth noting that the gifts to the parents of the groom and the parents of the bride should be equivalent. If some receive household appliances, then it is desirable for the second to present something like that.
It is better to choose gifts for young parents together. This brings together, allows you to get to know your partner’s family better. In addition, the bride can stop a young man in time if, for example, he is going to buy flowers for his mother-in-law, to which she is allergic.
Above, we talked about the opportunity to give a service or a tea pair, but it is better to refuse pots and pans as a gift to parents. It looks too ordinary, and a woman can see in such a gift a subtle hint that her place is in the kitchen.
No need to give gifts that can cause disagreements in the family. For example, if the father of the bride or groom is a passionate fisherman and constantly disappears on a lake or river, and his wife relentlessly “nags” him for it, it is better not to give a spinning rod, waders or a folding chair. The head of the family will want to immediately test all this in action, once again “sneaking away” from the house, for which the newlyweds will be indirectly to blame.
Taking care of the health of parents is always commendable. Above is a list of presentations from this group. However, they are worth stopping by. It is not recommended to give medicines, certificates for an appointment with a doctor (even a very good or paid one), means for measuring pressure, sugar levels. All these items, if there is a need for them, it is better to buy moms and dads for no reason.
If you believe the traditions, then you can not give watches, open objects, mirrors. According to beliefs, they can bring discord into the family. Even if you yourself do not believe in omens, it is quite possible that your parents, being people of the older generation, will see an unkind sign in such presentations.
When choosing gifts, it is important to approach this responsibly — find out the wishes, take into account personal preferences, family traditions. By choosing gifts at the last moment, you run the risk of purchasing completely unnecessary items. If you give something cheap, you will give the impression that you are giving presents exclusively for show. A similar impression will be created even if you give people an expensive but useless thing (for example, a refrigerator, if your parents have recently bought such equipment).
It is not recommended to give clothes and shoes to parents. Such gifts, according to etiquette, can only be presented to each other by close relatives. On the wedding day, usually the daughter’s fiancé or the son’s bride is not yet so dear to the mothers and fathers of their “halves”.
For information on what to give parents from the newlyweds, see below.