Pre-wedding chores and fuss captivate not only the main heroes of the occasion, but all relatives. Everyone wants to contribute to the wedding, to give advice and valuable (in their opinion) instruction. And yet there are traditions. To comply with them or not is a question for the bride and groom, who themselves must decide whether their wedding will be classic and traditional or non-standard and modern. There are many wedding traditions and they apply to literally everything. Even the purchase of a wedding dress can be determined by customs that have come down to us from our ancestors.
Who, according traditions, should buy a dress for the bride?
In Russia, it was customary for the bride to create her own wedding attire, as well as to prepare the dowry for herself. By the beauty and decoration of the dress, one could judge the girl’s abilities, her skill and diligence. Therefore, every girl wanted to appear before the guests and relatives in the most beautiful and richly decorated dress. By the way, according to tradition, it should have been red.
Over time, these traditions began to be forgotten, and the wealthy parents of the bride hired tailors to create wedding decorations. Even the color of the dress changed from red to white and pastel.
If the groom managed to visit Europe, then he tried to bring a dress for his future bride from there. And so the opinion was born that the groom should buy a wedding dress.
In the Soviet Union, the wedding celebration itself and the preparation for it were simplified, and ancient traditions began to be forgotten. Not much time was devoted to the wedding, dresses for the bride and groom were ordered at the nearest atelier, accessories were bought at the store, and the celebration itself was held in a cafe or restaurant.
True, there was and is one tradition that continues to be followed — the bridegroom should not see the dress chosen by the bride until the wedding. Otherwise, the marriage may be unhappy. But back to our question: who should be involved in choosing a wedding dress and who should be entrusted with its purchase.
Groom or his parents
Many believe that the groom and his family should bear the cost of buying not only the dress, but all additional items. This tradition is more common in Central, Southeast Asia and among Caucasian residents.
The outfit is chosen entirely by the groom’s relatives, including jewelry, which can only be gold. In this way, the groom’s family demonstrates their wealth and how strong the groom’s feelings for the bride are.
If you are just as lucky and the groom shows a desire to fully pay for the entire outfit of the bride, then you, as his future wife, should invite your mother-in-law to visit the bridal salon and choose a dress together. It would be prudent to visit the same salon beforehand with the person whom you know better and trust his taste and point of view more. Having noticed suitable options, show them to your mother-in-law and make the final choice. You can consider buying accessories for two with your future mother-in-law.
It would be foolish to refuse the groom’s offer to pay for your wedding dress. It is only necessary to pre-negotiate the total amount that you can have.
If the dress you chose turned out to be more expensive, then either you will have to pay the difference yourself, or look for a more budget option.
A common situation is that the groom buys a dress, while the cost of accessories is borne by the bride.
Bride or her parents
Situations can be different and it is possible that relatives from the side of the bride will buy the dress. In this case, you need to take your mother by the hand and gather close friends whose opinion you trust.
Here you also need to know the amount that you can count on, to have an idea about the style and style that suits you.
Before going to the salon and trying on dresses, consult with a fashion designer, look at the fashion trends of this season, study the recommendations of experts on choosing a dress for your body type. The choice of dress is also influenced by the time of year, weather conditions, the venue of the celebration and the theme of the wedding.
How to buy a dress in other countries
In European countries, all wedding expenses are shared between the newlyweds. Parents take little part in anything.
If the wedding takes place in Germany and no wedding is foreseen, then the bride chooses not even a wedding dress for herself, but simply a festive or elegant one, which she buys on her own.
Brides from the East marry in a dress bought by the groom’s relatives.
In America, the bride must choose the garters herself, which are not just an accessory and an element of underwear. They throw themselves as a groom into a crowd of their unmarried friends. This tradition is very similar to tossing a bouquet. This tradition is becoming more and more popular in Russia.
If you look at Brazil, the groom’s family does not take any part in choosing and buying a dress for the bride — everything falls on the shoulders of the bride’s relatives.
A modern point of view on the purchase of a wedding dress
The modern world has its own rules that determine the features of the process of preparing for a wedding. No one gets so hung up on who should still buy a dress for the bride.
Increasingly, young people make up a general budget that goes to all items of expenditure. If a woman is wealthy enough, then most likely she herself will want not only to buy a dress, but also pay for half of the banquet.
No matter how the situation develops in your case, it is imperative to agree on the choice of style in clothing for the bride and groom.