Now, quite often, girls on the forums write “I’m looking for a Muslim husband”, considering Muslim guys a more profitable party — religion forbids them to drink alcohol, and family is a sacred concept for them. But is it really so good in Muslim families? Surely there are some peculiarities here.
Muslim husband, Christian wife
Many ladies are interested in whether it is possible for a Christian woman to marry a Muslim, will the wife be obliged to accept another faith? According to the laws of Islam, a Christian woman may not renounce her faith, but she will not be able to raise a child in Christianity — he will have to become a Muslim. You also need to remember that parents in Muslim society are very respected, and therefore their word is often equated with the law. And if the parents are categorically against the Christian bride, then the man is more likely to break off the relationship than to argue with his parents.
Marrying a Muslim — features of a Muslim family
Often women think about how to marry a Muslim, and not about how they will live with him. In order to get to know a Muslim, there are no special problems — if domestic ones are not satisfied, then you can look for them on vacation or in universities that accept foreign students, as well as on the Internet. But before turning away from men of your religion, think about whether you can follow all the rules of a Muslim family. There are the following features and not for every woman they will be acceptable. Of course, it all depends on people, but it’s worth being prepared for such moments:
- Do not care about the question of how a girl should behave with a Muslim guy, because your chosen one is an “advanced” person? Do not rush to judge. Often Muslims forget about some rules and customs away from their families, but when they return home, all of them are immediately remembered. Therefore, first get to know his parents, watch him in his “native element”. If nothing bothers you, great. But if you notice a strong adherence to traditions, be prepared that after theyou will be obliged to honor them.
- The word of a husband is law for his wife; she has no right to disobey. Nevertheless, husbands listen to what their wives advise them, although they have the final say.
- To please the husband and to manage the household are the main duties of the wife. Permission to go to work must be asked from her husband, and at the same time, no one will remove household chores from a woman.
- Muslim wives should please the eye of their husband, not other men. Therefore, all jewelry and the body will need to be hidden under clothes and lower your eyes when meeting with other men. This rule applies to Muslim women, but the husband can also demand this from a Christian wife, especially if you live in a Muslim society.
- Also, a woman should not refuse her husband intimacy except for the days of menstruation, after childbirth, during illness or Hajj.
- The wife also has no right to leave the house without the consent of her husband. In addition, you will have to learn how to walk silently and not enter someone else’s house without the permission of your husband.
- Muslims have the right to have up to 4 wives if they have the opportunity to provide for them all and they are sure that they will be treated equally. Although husbands, of course, consult with the first wife about whether she is against the second wife. And, I must say, now polygamy is not as common as it used to be, and basically there are reasons for this — for example, the infertility of the wife, a serious illness, etc. In any case, this point is best discussed before the wedding.
- Please note that Muslim husbands have the right to punish their wives for persistent disobedience. But physical punishment is an extreme measure, it should not leave marks on the body, and if so, then the woman has the right to demand a divorce.
- In the event of a divorce, the Christian woman most likely will not be able to take the child, because according to Muslim laws, if the wife is not a Muslim, the children remain with the father.
Perhaps these rules seem complicated and incomprehensible to a non-Muslim woman. But on the other hand, in the person of a Muslim husband who honors his religion, you will receive a faithful, devoted, honest, sympathetic family man with excellent moral qualities and without addiction to alcohol, who will love you and children, honor your relatives and will not interfere with you in observing your religion.