Girls very often ide­al­ize their future fam­i­ly life. Despite the far from per­fect rela­tion­ships in many fam­i­lies, those who have not yet acquired them hope that every­thing will be dif­fer­ent for them, once and for all their lives. Ide­al love to the grave is a very abstract con­cept, accord­ing to psy­chol­o­gists, so it often hap­pens that you can’t find your per­son­al hap­pi­ness in your first mar­riage.

The sta­tis­tics of remar­riages in our coun­try shows that more than 30% of cou­ples are unable to save their first mar­riage. Prob­lems, as a rule, appear after the feel­ing of falling in love dis­ap­pears for the spous­es and all the traits of the partner’s char­ac­ter that are unac­cept­able for them, inten­si­fy on the basis of domes­tic con­flicts, become sim­ply unbear­able.

The psychology of remarriage

Accord­ing to peo­ple who have not been mar­ried for the first time, re-reg­is­tra­tion of mar­riage allows to solve all prob­lems, and accord­ing to sta­tis­tics, in most cas­es this is true, since re-mar­riages are more sta­ble.

Psychological problems of remarriage

There are sev­er­al types of remar­riages, which cause var­i­ous kinds of prob­lems:

  1. Ter­mi­na­tion of a pre­vi­ous rela­tion­ship. The pre­lim­i­nary fam­i­ly rela­tion­ship could be very valu­able for both spous­es. Imprints of the past, a kind of cliché in fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships, often leads to re-dis­so­lu­tion of mar­riage.
  2. Expe­ri­ence in fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships. Con­flicts in the fam­i­ly may arise on the basis of the unpre­pared­ness of one of the spous­es for fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships.
  3. Age dif­fer­ence between part­ners.

Divorce and remarriage

No mat­ter how para­dox­i­cal it may seem, a remar­riage with an ex-hus­band can be more suc­cess­ful than a pri­ma­ry one, because over time peo­ple become wis­er and recon­sid­er their val­ues, they real­ize the cost of mis­takes made ear­li­er and learn cer­tain life lessons from this.

Remarriage and children

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Chil­dren from pre­vi­ous mar­riages do not per­ceive the divorce of their par­ents and the entry into the fam­i­ly cir­cle of a new per­son. The child must feel the love of both par­ents, who in turn must make equal con­tri­bu­tions to his upbring­ing.

In ado­les­cence, a child needs a strong and under­stand­ing fam­i­ly, because at this age self-aware­ness and views on future pro­fes­sion­al ori­en­ta­tion and per­son­al life are active­ly formed. The unfa­vor­able expe­ri­ence of one of the par­ents can per­ma­nent­ly plant the image of a dys­func­tion­al fam­i­ly in the mind of a teenag­er, and unwill­ing­ness acquires its own.