Girls very often idealize their future family life. Despite the far from perfect relationships in many families, those who have not yet acquired them hope that everything will be different for them, once and for all their lives. Ideal love to the grave is a very abstract concept, according to psychologists, so it often happens that you can’t find your personal happiness in your first marriage.
The statistics of remarriages in our country shows that more than 30% of couples are unable to save their first marriage. Problems, as a rule, appear after the feeling of falling in love disappears for the spouses and all the traits of the partner’s character that are unacceptable for them, intensify on the basis of domestic conflicts, become simply unbearable.
The psychology of remarriage
According to people who have not been married for the first time, re-registration of marriage allows to solve all problems, and according to statistics, in most cases this is true, since re-marriages are more stable.
Psychological problems of remarriage
There are several types of remarriages, which cause various kinds of problems:
- Termination of a previous relationship. The preliminary family relationship could be very valuable for both spouses. Imprints of the past, a kind of cliché in family relationships, often leads to re-dissolution of marriage.
- Experience in family relationships. Conflicts in the family may arise on the basis of the unpreparedness of one of the spouses for family relationships.
- Age difference between partners.
Divorce and remarriage
No matter how paradoxical it may seem, a remarriage with an ex-husband can be more successful than a primary one, because over time people become wiser and reconsider their values, they realize the cost of mistakes made earlier and learn certain life lessons from this.
Remarriage and children
Children from previous marriages do not perceive the divorce of their parents and the entry into the family circle of a new person. The child must feel the love of both parents, who in turn must make equal contributions to his upbringing.
In adolescence, a child needs a strong and understanding family, because at this age self-awareness and views on future professional orientation and personal life are actively formed. The unfavorable experience of one of the parents can permanently plant the image of a dysfunctional family in the mind of a teenager, and unwillingness acquires its own.