The family is the closest people, and therefore the problem of domestic violence, one of the most common in modern society, is so terrible. The statistics are disappointing, more than 50% of women experience domestic violence. Cases where the victim is a man are very rare — 5% of the total number of episodes. This usually happens in couples where the husband is significantly older than his wife. Worst of all, people who have been victims of domestic violence do not know what to do with it, continuing to endure bullying.
Types of domestic violence
There are the following types of domestic violence: physical, sexual, economic and psychological.
- Physical violence most often discussed, its fact is the easiest to notice and prove. But it should be borne in mind that not only severe beatings fall into this category, but also slaps, kicks and slaps. Usually, everything does not end after the first beating, the beatings continue, becoming more and more cruel each time, and if radical measures are not taken, then all this can lead to the death of the victim.
- Sexual abuse. It is not uncommon for men to force their wives into intimacy after being beaten. Sometimes this happens in response to a refusal to have a child.
- economic violence expressed in a ban on working, managing money. Most often, women and high school students are exposed to such exposure. The husband forbids going to work, undertakes to support the family on his own, and when a woman becomes completely financially dependent on him, she begins to scoff and blame her for this fact.
- Psychological (emotional) domestic violence — this is blackmail, constant criticism, intimidation, humiliation, coercion to any action, a ban on communication with relatives or friends, etc. Psychological violence in the family is very common, but it can be very difficult to recognize it. And yet it entails very serious consequences. With physical bullying, a woman at least understands that she needs to run away, and victims of emotional violence in the family begin to believe in their inferiority. Women are sure that they do not deserve better, children growing up in such families acquire many complexes, which may well result in an attempt to violence against their peers or future family.
Causes of Domestic Violence
The tendency to violence is hereditary, but most often acquired through negative life experiences, for example, growing up in a family where the father beat or mocked the mother or child. Therefore, the best prevention of domestic violence is the intersection of such phenomena with the subsequent rehabilitation of the victims. Various stereotypes also contribute to the spread of violence, for example, “the word of a husband is a law for a wife.” Many men prefer to enforce this law through violence. Often people are simply unable to talk and sort things out, preferring to solve problems with their fists.
Domestic violence, what to do?
Many women are embarrassed to seek protection from domestic violence from other people, often blaming themselves for what is happening. Therefore, they do not go to the police and do not file for divorce, preferring to continue to endure bullying and humiliation. But it is necessary to stop such treatment, otherwise it can end very sadly. If you cannot cope with the situation on your own, you can contact specialized organizations that are in every big city. In some cities there are specialized centers where victims of domestic violence will be provided with psychological and legal assistance, as well as temporary shelter.