Violence in Family

The fam­i­ly is the clos­est peo­ple, and there­fore the prob­lem of domes­tic vio­lence, one of the most com­mon in mod­ern soci­ety, is so ter­ri­ble. The sta­tis­tics are dis­ap­point­ing, more than 50% of women expe­ri­ence domes­tic vio­lence. Cas­es where the vic­tim is a man are very rare — 5% of the total num­ber of episodes. This usu­al­ly hap­pens in cou­ples where the hus­band is sig­nif­i­cant­ly old­er than his wife. Worst of all, peo­ple who have been vic­tims of domes­tic vio­lence do not know what to do with it, con­tin­u­ing to endure bul­ly­ing.

Types of domestic violence

There are the fol­low­ing types of domes­tic vio­lence: phys­i­cal, sex­u­al, eco­nom­ic and psy­cho­log­i­cal.

1. Phys­i­cal vio­lence most often dis­cussed, its fact is the eas­i­est to notice and prove. But it should be borne in mind that not only severe beat­ings fall into this cat­e­go­ry, but also slaps, kicks and slaps. Usu­al­ly, every­thing does not end after the first beat­ing, the beat­ings con­tin­ue, becom­ing more and more cru­el each time, and if rad­i­cal mea­sures are not tak­en, then all this can lead to the death of the vic­tim.
2. Sex­u­al abuse. It is not uncom­mon for men to force their wives into inti­ma­cy after being beat­en. Some­times this hap­pens in response to a refusal to have a child.
3. eco­nom­ic vio­lence expressed in a ban on work­ing, man­ag­ing mon­ey. Most often, women and high school stu­dents are exposed to such expo­sure. The hus­band for­bids going to work, under­takes to sup­port the fam­i­ly on his own, and when a woman becomes com­plete­ly finan­cial­ly depen­dent on him, she begins to scoff and blame her for this fact.
4. Psy­cho­log­i­cal (emo­tion­al) domes­tic vio­lence — this is black­mail, con­stant crit­i­cism, intim­i­da­tion, humil­i­a­tion, coer­cion to any action, a ban on com­mu­ni­ca­tion with rel­a­tives or friends, etc. Psy­cho­log­i­cal vio­lence in the fam­i­ly is very com­mon, but it can be very dif­fi­cult to rec­og­nize it. And yet it entails very seri­ous con­se­quences. With phys­i­cal bul­ly­ing, a woman at least under­stands that she needs to run away, and vic­tims of emo­tion­al vio­lence in the fam­i­ly begin to believe in their infe­ri­or­i­ty. Women are sure that they do not deserve bet­ter, chil­dren grow­ing up in such fam­i­lies acquire many com­plex­es, which may well result in an attempt to vio­lence against their peers or future fam­i­ly.

Causes of Domestic Violence

The ten­den­cy to vio­lence is hered­i­tary, but most often acquired through neg­a­tive life expe­ri­ences, for exam­ple, grow­ing up in a fam­i­ly where the father beat or mocked the moth­er or child. There­fore, the best pre­ven­tion of domes­tic vio­lence is the inter­sec­tion of such phe­nom­e­na with the sub­se­quent reha­bil­i­ta­tion of the vic­tims. Var­i­ous stereo­types also con­tribute to the spread of vio­lence, for exam­ple, “the word of a hus­band is a law for a wife.” Many men pre­fer to enforce this law through vio­lence. Often peo­ple are sim­ply unable to talk and sort things out, pre­fer­ring to solve prob­lems with their fists.

Domestic violence, what to do?

Many women are embar­rassed to seek pro­tec­tion from domes­tic vio­lence from oth­er peo­ple, often blam­ing them­selves for what is hap­pen­ing. There­fore, they do not go to the police and do not file for divorce, pre­fer­ring to con­tin­ue to endure bul­ly­ing and humil­i­a­tion. But it is nec­es­sary to stop such treat­ment, oth­er­wise it can end very sad­ly. If you can­not cope with the sit­u­a­tion on your own, you can con­tact spe­cial­ized orga­ni­za­tions that are in every big city. In some cities there are spe­cial­ized cen­ters where vic­tims of domes­tic vio­lence will be pro­vid­ed with psy­cho­log­i­cal and legal assis­tance, as well as tem­po­rary shel­ter.