All families are similar and each family is different. This is manifested in the attitude of family members to good and bad, rules of conduct in various situations, types of punishments for misconduct, etc. Rules can be public or unspoken. Vowel rules are discussed and may change depending on the situation and in agreement with all family members. The unspoken rules are known to everyone in the family and are not discussed, but their implementation is mandatory. A family charter is a set of all rules existing in the family circle, both public and unspoken.
An example of vowel rules is a child’s bedtime. They tell him to go to bed at nine o’clock in the evening, and he knows it. The child grows up and gradually the time of sleep changes. An example of unspoken family rules — you can not insult older family members. This is not discussed, no matter how much time has passed.
Family life rules
What are family rules for?
- maintaining stability in the family;
- creation of conditions for the development of each family member as a full-fledged personality;
- harmony of intra-family relations;
- avoidance of conflicts between relatives;
- distribution of rights and duties between each family member.
The set of family rules in each family is different. Usually, the rules inculcated by the older generation are taken as the basis of the family charter, adjusted for the own character of each family member and the current generation. The charter of the family affects almost all aspects of her life. Starting with who should do what and ending with the expression of feelings for each other. For example, in one family, taking out the garbage is the prerogative of the husband, and in another family, the one who first went towards the garbage chute throws out the garbage. In one family, swearing in front of children is the norm, and in another, parents do not even allow themselves to raise their tone at each other if there is a child in the room.
At each stage of the new cycle of family life, changes can be made to family rules. It is at such moments that the ability of households to negotiate among themselves is tested. The moral situation within the family and its psychological health depend on this. The relationship between relatives is adversely affected by the absence of any norms of behavior, or their contradiction to each other.
Rules for a happy family life
- an expression of love and respect — once you give something to a person, you can hope to receive the same in return;
- equality — at work you can be superiors or subordinates, at home with your spouse you should be equal;
- freedom — no matter how harmonious your family is, you are still different people with different interests and friends — provided that you do not hide anything from each other. A little bit of free space is simply necessary for everyone;
- do not check the bag, phone, pockets that do not belong to you — your distrust can be taken as an insult;
- try to avoid ultimatums — everything should be subject to joint discussion;
- during a quarrel, do not lock yourself in silence for a long time, the ability to seek compromises is the basis of long-term marriages;
- periodically practice joking communication — you can even write a joke family charter, the implementation of some points of which will defuse the situation;
- constantly take care of each other — in any situation, each of you should know that he has someone to rely on.
The rules adopted in the family have a beneficial effect on the development of children and the formation of their personality, the formation of their “I”. Children in such families develop faster, perceive useful information more easily, and adapt more easily to a new environment. As a result, normal morally stable citizens of their country grow up, capable of creating strong and prosperous families.