family charter

All fam­i­lies are sim­i­lar and each fam­i­ly is dif­fer­ent. This is man­i­fest­ed in the atti­tude of fam­i­ly mem­bers to good and bad, rules of con­duct in var­i­ous sit­u­a­tions, types of pun­ish­ments for mis­con­duct, etc. Rules can be pub­lic or unspo­ken. Vow­el rules are dis­cussed and may change depend­ing on the sit­u­a­tion and in agree­ment with all fam­i­ly mem­bers. The unspo­ken rules are known to every­one in the fam­i­ly and are not dis­cussed, but their imple­men­ta­tion is manda­to­ry. A fam­i­ly char­ter is a set of all rules exist­ing in the fam­i­ly cir­cle, both pub­lic and unspo­ken.

An exam­ple of vow­el rules is a child’s bed­time. They tell him to go to bed at nine o’clock in the evening, and he knows it. The child grows up and grad­u­al­ly the time of sleep changes. An exam­ple of unspo­ken fam­i­ly rules — you can not insult old­er fam­i­ly mem­bers. This is not dis­cussed, no mat­ter how much time has passed.

Family life rules

What are fam­i­ly rules for?

  • main­tain­ing sta­bil­i­ty in the fam­i­ly;
  • cre­ation of con­di­tions for the devel­op­ment of each fam­i­ly mem­ber as a full-fledged per­son­al­i­ty;
  • har­mo­ny of intra-fam­i­ly rela­tions;
  • avoid­ance of con­flicts between rel­a­tives;
  • dis­tri­b­u­tion of rights and duties between each fam­i­ly mem­ber.

The set of fam­i­ly rules in each fam­i­ly is dif­fer­ent. Usu­al­ly, the rules incul­cat­ed by the old­er gen­er­a­tion are tak­en as the basis of the fam­i­ly char­ter, adjust­ed for the own char­ac­ter of each fam­i­ly mem­ber and the cur­rent gen­er­a­tion. The char­ter of the fam­i­ly affects almost all aspects of her life. Start­ing with who should do what and end­ing with the expres­sion of feel­ings for each oth­er. For exam­ple, in one fam­i­ly, tak­ing out the garbage is the pre­rog­a­tive of the hus­band, and in anoth­er fam­i­ly, the one who first went towards the garbage chute throws out the garbage. In one fam­i­ly, swear­ing in front of chil­dren is the norm, and in anoth­er, par­ents do not even allow them­selves to raise their tone at each oth­er if there is a child in the room.

See also
Family Constellations According to Hellinger

At each stage of the new cycle of fam­i­ly life, changes can be made to fam­i­ly rules. It is at such moments that the abil­i­ty of house­holds to nego­ti­ate among them­selves is test­ed. The moral sit­u­a­tion with­in the fam­i­ly and its psy­cho­log­i­cal health depend on this. The rela­tion­ship between rel­a­tives is adverse­ly affect­ed by the absence of any norms of behav­ior, or their con­tra­dic­tion to each oth­er.

Rules for a happy family life

  • an expres­sion of love and respect — once you give some­thing to a per­son, you can hope to receive the same in return;
  • equal­i­ty — at work you can be supe­ri­ors or sub­or­di­nates, at home with your spouse you should be equal;
  • free­dom — no mat­ter how har­mo­nious your fam­i­ly is, you are still dif­fer­ent peo­ple with dif­fer­ent inter­ests and friends — pro­vid­ed that you do not hide any­thing from each oth­er. A lit­tle bit of free space is sim­ply nec­es­sary for every­one;
  • do not check the bag, phone, pock­ets that do not belong to you — your dis­trust can be tak­en as an insult;
  • try to avoid ulti­ma­tums — every­thing should be sub­ject to joint dis­cus­sion;
  • dur­ing a quar­rel, do not lock your­self in silence for a long time, the abil­i­ty to seek com­pro­mis­es is the basis of long-term mar­riages;
  • peri­od­i­cal­ly prac­tice jok­ing com­mu­ni­ca­tion — you can even write a joke family life rulesfam­i­ly char­ter, the imple­men­ta­tion of some points of which will defuse the sit­u­a­tion;
  • con­stant­ly take care of each oth­er — in any sit­u­a­tion, each of you should know that he has some­one to rely on.
See also
low, high or medium styling for long and short hair

The rules adopt­ed in the fam­i­ly have a ben­e­fi­cial effect on the devel­op­ment of chil­dren and the for­ma­tion of their per­son­al­i­ty, the for­ma­tion of their “I”. Chil­dren in such fam­i­lies devel­op faster, per­ceive use­ful infor­ma­tion more eas­i­ly, and adapt more eas­i­ly to a new envi­ron­ment. As a result, nor­mal moral­ly sta­ble cit­i­zens of their coun­try grow up, capa­ble of cre­at­ing strong and pros­per­ous fam­i­lies.