Everything new is a well-forgotten old, in some cases even ancient. It’s scary to think that the method of constellations was known 5000 years ago and was used by the dervishes of Central Asia, and it gained popularity only in the 90s of the last century. Most often, the concept of family constellations is associated with the name of Bert Hellinger. It was with his submission that this method began to be used in psychotherapy. But besides the followers, this method has fundamental opponents who consider its use unacceptable. Let’s see what is good about the Hellinger family constellation method and how they can be dangerous.
The essence of the method of systemic family constellations according to Hellinger
No one will deny that the family has a huge influence on the formation of personality, and any troubles in it affect every member of the family, especially children. Often people cannot cope with conflicts on their own, because they do not have the opportunity to look at the problem through the eyes of an opponent. Bert Hellinger uses the family constellation method for this purpose. The classic arrangement involves the choice of deputies for the role of members of the client’s family. Next, an arrangement is made according to the intuitive sensations of the psychotherapist or client, and then a survey of each deputy begins about their feelings, thoughts and sensations. Thus, it turns out to find out the relationship between each element of the system.
Hellinger constellations can be done in a group or individually. In the latter case, figurines, imagination, anchors, chairs, etc. are used instead of human substitutes. But Hellinger constellations conducted in the training format are often more effective. Since it is not always possible for a person to “get into the shoes” of another during individual work.
It seems that everything is not bad, people get the opportunity to analyze the situation in detail, to find a way out of it that would suit all family members. Moreover, there is more than one example when Hellenger constellations changed people’s lives for the better. Why, then, are there so many dissatisfied people who say that this method is evil?
The Dangers of the Hellinger Family Constellation Method
Hellinger’s first book on the family constellation method was called The Orders of Love, and it outlined the basic principles of this method:
- Ownership law. Every member of the family has the right to belong to it. With the exclusion of any member of the family, the remaining ones are forced to take on his role, in some way to repeat his fate.
- Hierarchy law. The new family takes precedence over the old one. If children, establishing their family, remain more attached to the parent, then problems in the new family are inevitable.
- The law of balance. Each member of the family must give as much as he receives.
Violation of these principles leads to problems and conflicts, but to find out the source of the contradictions, you need to make a lot of effort. The task is even more complicated by the fact that mistakes could be made by those people who are no longer alive. On system constellations for their role, deputies are also selected, which is why there are so many indignant people. Bioenergetics are indignant, saying that such an action is very reminiscent of spiritualism, people thus take on the programs of deceased relatives. Orthodoxy, for the same reason, considers the Hellinger arrangements to be obscurantism, only a very few sincerely believing psychologists decide to put into practice some of the techniques from this method.
It is up to you to decide which group to join, but remember that the human psyche is a thing that requires careful treatment, and therefore it is not worth trusting it to the cares of non-professionals trying to make money on people’s problems.