family constellations according to Hellinger

Every­thing new is a well-for­got­ten old, in some cas­es even ancient. It’s scary to think that the method of con­stel­la­tions was known 5000 years ago and was used by the dervish­es of Cen­tral Asia, and it gained pop­u­lar­i­ty only in the 90s of the last cen­tu­ry. Most often, the con­cept of fam­i­ly con­stel­la­tions is asso­ci­at­ed with the name of Bert Hellinger. It was with his sub­mis­sion that this method began to be used in psy­chother­a­py. But besides the fol­low­ers, this method has fun­da­men­tal oppo­nents who con­sid­er its use unac­cept­able. Let’s see what is good about the Hellinger fam­i­ly con­stel­la­tion method and how they can be dan­ger­ous.

The essence of the method of systemic family constellations according to Hellinger

No one will deny that the fam­i­ly has a huge influ­ence on the for­ma­tion of per­son­al­i­ty, and any trou­bles in it affect every mem­ber of the fam­i­ly, espe­cial­ly chil­dren. Often peo­ple can­not cope with con­flicts on their own, because they do not have the oppor­tu­ni­ty to look at the prob­lem through the eyes of an oppo­nent. Bert Hellinger uses the fam­i­ly con­stel­la­tion method for this pur­pose. The clas­sic arrange­ment involves the choice of deputies for the role of mem­bers of the clien­t’s fam­i­ly. Next, an arrange­ment is made accord­ing to the intu­itive sen­sa­tions of the psy­chother­a­pist or client, and then a sur­vey of each deputy begins about their feel­ings, thoughts and sen­sa­tions. Thus, it turns out to find out the rela­tion­ship between each ele­ment of the sys­tem.

Hellinger con­stel­la­tions can be done in a group or indi­vid­u­al­ly. In the lat­ter case, fig­urines, imag­i­na­tion, anchors, chairs, etc. are used instead of human sub­sti­tutes. But Hellinger con­stel­la­tions con­duct­ed in the train­ing for­mat are often more effec­tive. Since it is not always pos­si­ble for a per­son to “get into the shoes” of anoth­er dur­ing indi­vid­ual work.

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It seems that every­thing is not bad, peo­ple get the oppor­tu­ni­ty to ana­lyze the sit­u­a­tion in detail, to find a way out of it that would suit all fam­i­ly mem­bers. More­over, there is more than one exam­ple when Hel­lenger con­stel­la­tions changed peo­ple’s lives for the bet­ter. Why, then, are there so many dis­sat­is­fied peo­ple who say that this method is evil?

The Dangers of the Hellinger Family Constellation Method

Hellinger’s first book on the fam­i­ly con­stel­la­tion method was called The Orders of Love, and it out­lined the basic prin­ci­ples of this method:

  1. Own­er­ship law. Every mem­ber of the fam­i­ly has the right to belong to it. With the exclu­sion of any mem­ber of the fam­i­ly, the remain­ing ones are forced to take on his role, in some way to repeat his fate.
  2. Hier­ar­chy law. The new fam­i­ly takes prece­dence over the old one. If chil­dren, estab­lish­ing their fam­i­ly, remain more attached to the par­ent, then prob­lems in the new fam­i­ly are inevitable.
  3. The law of bal­ance. Each mem­ber of the fam­i­ly must give as much as he receives.

Vio­la­tion of these prin­ci­ples leads to prob­lems and con­flicts, but to find out the source of the con­tra­dic­tions, you need to make a lot of effort. The task is even more com­pli­cat­ed by the fact that mis­takes could be made by those peo­ple who are no longer alive. On sys­tem Bert Hellinger family constellationscon­stel­la­tions for their role, deputies are also select­ed, which is why there are so many indig­nant peo­ple. Bioen­er­get­ics are indig­nant, say­ing that such an action is very rem­i­nis­cent of spir­i­tu­al­ism, peo­ple thus take on the pro­grams of deceased rel­a­tives. Ortho­doxy, for the same rea­son, con­sid­ers the Hellinger arrange­ments to be obscu­ran­tism, only a very few sin­cere­ly believ­ing psy­chol­o­gists decide to put into prac­tice some of the tech­niques from this method.

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It is up to you to decide which group to join, but remem­ber that the human psy­che is a thing that requires care­ful treat­ment, and there­fore it is not worth trust­ing it to the cares of non-pro­fes­sion­als try­ing to make mon­ey on peo­ple’s prob­lems.