Today, residents of big cities, people who are actively building a career, are increasingly thinking about such a variety of relationships as guest marriages. But what is a guest marriage?
It is also called extraterritorial, that is, the spouses live in different territories, meeting by mutual desire. It is also possible to jointly spend vacations, holidays, not long-term cohabitation, but at the same time, the spouses do not run a common household. At other times, the spouses are free from each other and family obligations, but unlike free relationships, a guest marriage still implies the loyalty of the parties, and there is also a stamp in the passport.
Features of life in a guest marriage
A guest marriage is usually concluded when the future husband and wife are quite wealthy and independent people and do not want to lose their freedom at all. In addition, adherents of guest marriages believe that long-term cohabitation kills feelings and romance, and partners do not respect and do not appreciate each other at all. All this can be avoided in a guest marriage — the spouses see each other only by mutual desire and they do not care about domestic problems at all. What other benefits does guest marriage have?
- no daily routine;
- no one limits a person in pastime, there is a large amount of free space and time;
- there is no and cannot be control “where have you been”, “why did you stay so long with friends” and so on;
- there is no need to take care of another person, to adapt to his habits;
- lack of knowledge of everyday trifles makes partners always desirable for each other, and sex is not an everyday necessity.
Guest relationships are often chosen by creative people who need free space like air, or those who are constantly traveling. For the rest of the people, a guest marriage can turn into a number of rather serious inconveniences. For example, such relationships are possible only if the guest wife and husband are healthy, wealthy people who exist in society without any problems. After all, a guest marriage risks breaking up at the slightest deterioration in the financial situation of one of the partners. Also, he will not withstand illness or deterioration in the quality of sex. In a guest marriage, partners have no special obligations to each other, and if one ceases to be satisfied with anything, the relationship ends without further ado.
Psychologists do not at all consider this type of marriage serious — most of them call such a relationship a hoax. Since such couples only play family life, not daring to take on obligations for another person. Thus, the family is replaced by a base surrogate. But there is an opinion that guest marriages have the right to exist, however, only temporarily. After all, if a person cannot let another into his territory, then he is looking for a better, maybe more convenient option. But be that as it may, it cannot be denied that guest marriages, although aimed at creating maximum comfort for both partners, can also have a number of difficult moments, especially if the couple is thinking about children.
Children in a guest marriage
A guest marriage does not exclude the appearance of children, but their birth is usually pre-agreed by the spouses. The child is brought up either by the person who took the initiative in their appearance, or the spouses share duties among themselves, although at first the mother will still take care of the child. But most often, upbringing falls entirely on the shoulders of the mother, the father takes a mediocre part in the lives of children — a sort of weekend dad.
Guest marriages, of course, have their advantages, but it seems that they will never be able to replace a full-fledged family — you want to see your loved one every day, and for this you can sacrifice a piece of personal comfort.