Happy Marriage

A hap­py mar­riage is a rar­i­ty these days. It is fash­ion­able to judge this based on divorce sta­tis­tics alone, which says that from 60% to 80% of all mar­riages even­tu­al­ly break up. That is why it is worth think­ing about how to make a mar­riage hap­py from the very begin­ning in order to keep the rela­tion­ship pos­i­tive.

Are there happy marriages?

The answer to such a ques­tion is unequiv­o­cal — yes, and the foun­da­tions of a hap­py mar­riage are sim­ple and under­stand­able to every­one, it’s just that over time peo­ple cease to con­sid­er it nec­es­sary to adhere to them.

At its core, the psy­chol­o­gy of a hap­py mar­riage is sim­i­lar to the psy­chol­o­gy of a hap­py rela­tion­ship: respect, mutu­al under­stand­ing, sup­port and diver­si­ty are nec­es­sary, because it is pre­cise­ly because every­thing becomes bor­ing that mutu­al “dig­ging for short­com­ings” begins, instead of, as before, , appeal to the mer­its.

Secrets of a Happy Marriage

The path to a hap­py mar­riage runs through the real­iza­tion of one’s own mis­takes. After all, if ini­tial­ly in the rela­tion­ship it was “every­thing is bad”, you would not mar­ry this per­son. So, if you go back to the roots, you can return to the rela­tion­ship a lot of what has already been for­got­ten, but before it always made you hap­py.

1. The first rule of a hap­py mar­riage is mutu­al respect! Nev­er speak bad­ly about what is impor­tant to your spouse. Don’t swear in front of peo­ple. Avoid offen­sive lan­guage and sar­cas­tic tone. RESPECT your part­ner in every sense of the word.
2. The sta­tis­tics of hap­py mar­riages show that peo­ple who have com­mon hob­bies or a com­mon job are much more sat­is­fied with their mar­riage than oth­ers. Your task is to find it. Dance cours­es? Sports activ­i­ties? Sup­ply sys­tem? Evening walks? Joint cre­ativ­i­ty? You should have a com­mon cause that gives you a lot of joy.
3. Laugh­ter sounds only in hap­py fam­i­lies. Have fun: watch come­dies, remem­ber jokes and fun­ny sto­ries in con­ver­sa­tion, com­mu­ni­cate like friends. If all your con­ver­sa­tions con­cern only every­day life, get rid of it, start con­ver­sa­tions about val­ues ​​and inter­ests.
4. Tac­tile con­tact. Strive to con­stant­ly touch each oth­er. Kiss before you leave and when you return, hug while watch­ing TV. It’s the lit­tle things that real­ly bring them togeth­er.
5. Avoid lengthy fights. This does not mean that you need to indulge your soul mate in every­thing. Just find a con­struc­tive way out of the sit­u­a­tion — do not sulk for a week, but sit down and calm­ly dis­cuss how to get out of this sit­u­a­tion, find a com­pro­mise.

Many believe that a hap­py sec­ond mar­riage is more like­ly than a hap­py first, but this only applies to those unions that were entered into due to youth, stu­pid­i­ty or preg­nan­cy — that is, with­out a pre­lim­i­nary assess­ment of com­pat­i­bil­i­ty and oth­er impor­tant qual­i­ties.

How to become happy in marriage?

If you see that mar­riage does not suit you, per­haps the mat­ter is in your atti­tude towards it, and not in oth­er prob­lems. Start with an analy­sis by tak­ing paper and a pen:

1. What specif­i­cal­ly do you dis­like about mar­riage?
2. How can you change it?

3. How much time will be required for this?

For exam­ple, you do not like that your hus­band sits in front of the TV or com­put­er all day. In order to change this and involve him in spend­ing time togeth­er, you need to offer him an inter­est­ing alter­na­tive: watch a movie, take a walk, go to the the­ater or cin­e­ma, go on a vis­it, etc. It will take almost no time to do this, and you can apply it almost any evening when there is such a desire. The prob­lem appears to be resolved. Sim­i­lar­ly, you can solve most of the prob­lems in mar­riage, which gen­er­al­ly lend them­selves to solu­tion.