A wedding is a very exciting day for newlyweds. So much time and effort was spent on preparation, and what can we say about nerve cells! In this article Chanfashion will give advice to guests at the wedding on how to support the couple and have a good time, and not become an additional stress factor for the newlyweds.
Don’t delay answering
When you have been sent or personally handed a wedding invitation, try to give the bride and groom a final answer as soon as possible, whether you can come. Of course, you need to fit the date into your schedule and tie the wedding to other things. But the couple really needs the exact number of guests as early as possible: a ton of organizational moments depend on this. Try not to over tighten.
Wedding preparation is not an easy task, it is also often complicated by uninvited advice and criticism from loved ones. Believe me, while preparing for the wedding, the newlyweds receive recommendations in the spirit of “We know how to do it” from each iron, and they are far from always happy with such help from future wedding guests 🙂 But if they turned to you directly for advice, of course, you should provide all possible help or just moral support.
Don’t forget the gift
Perhaps it doesn’t even make sense to talk about the emotions of the newlyweds who received an empty envelope as a gift from the guests at the wedding. We are sure that you are definitely a decent guest, since you are reading tips on how to be even better 🙂
Failures with gifts happen not only because of dishonesty: it happens that they fill up with work, and then parents ask for help at the dacha on the weekends, and you also need to figure out the new rules for paying for communal apartments, but useful webinars will not look at themselves! In such a cycle, you can completely forget about the gift, and then in a hurry to choose something on the eve of X‑day. Be puzzled by ordering a gift as early as possible to eliminate problems with delivery or your own forgetfulness.
If wedding gift ideas are tight, ask the newlyweds what they would like, or donate money. They will definitely not be superfluous to the newly-made family.
Chanfashion has a great list of ideas that guests can give the newlyweds for the wedding. Also a list of what not to give 🙂
Don’t be late
Spectacular appearances an hour after the start of the holiday should be postponed to another event, at a wedding this is only allowed for the newlyweds, and not for guests 🙂
Of course, we are not immune from traffic jams, small domestic disasters and similar troubles that can delay at the most inopportune moment. However, try to calculate your itinerary and fees so that you arrive on time, and not rush into the ceremony in a panic while the father leads the bride to the altar. For a wedding guest, punctuality is extremely important.
Don’t wear white
Traditionally, on the wedding day, the white color is assigned to the bride, and for guests, clothes of this color are mauvais ton. Of course, there are exceptions: for example, if the bride decides to wear a wedding dress of a non-standard color, and asks guests to wear total white. But if you haven’t been told this, then wearing a white dress (God forbid, it’s also long) and competing with the bride in the photographs is not the most pleasant gesture from the guest.
If, along with the invitation to the wedding, you were sent wishes according to the dress code, then we advise you to try to comply with them at least partially. No one will force guests to buy new outfits at once or radically change their usual style, but the newlyweds will be very happy if you listen to their wishes and pick up something in the right color scheme and style.
No negative comments
Surely, a lot of money, nerves and time were spent on preparing for the wedding, and the couple tried very hard to make the holiday memorable and enjoyable for all guests. In order not to hurt or offend the main characters of this day, it is better not to pay their attention to any shortcomings of the organization. Nevertheless, you are a welcome guest at a family celebration, and not a strict judge of the competition for the best event 🙂 Advice: do not aggravate the situation and switch your attention to the positive aspects — this way you will keep your good mood as well.
The bride already has a million reasons to be nervous on such a day, you should not add another critical comment to her.
Leave bad mood at home
We are all people, and a million factors can spoil our mood: the day before there was a blockage at work, an unpleasant driver got caught on the way to the restaurant, and new shoes treacherously rub. The dollar exchange rate is an eternal reason for existential reflections, after all 🙂 But we advise you to try to disconnect from external troubles for one evening and focus on such an important day for your loved ones.
Due to the nervous tension from the wedding and preparation for it, the first thing the bride will decide is that you are unhappy because of the tasteless snacks, disappointed with her dress, and the host is stressing you. The last thing she thinks of when she sees a sad or puzzled face of a guest is about problems that have nothing to do with her or the wedding. Therefore, we close the tab with the exchange rate on the phone, put it aside and enjoy the holiday organized with such love 🙂
Surely, there will be a lot of high-quality alcohol at the banquet, but it is important not to overdo it with it. Moreover, at weddings, the guests closest to the newlyweds experience considerable excitement: surging emotions, coupled with refusal to eat, fatigue from a long day and general stress, can significantly reduce resistance to the influence of alcohol. At weddings, it is not uncommon for mothers of the newlyweds, bridesmaids or especially sensitive guests to suffer from one or two glasses of champagne, although they usually endure this without any consequences.
Here are some classic tips to help keep alcohol from suddenly clouding your mind:
Caution at the welcome buffet. Even a glass of champagne can give unpredictable results if you did not have time to have breakfast before the wedding, and the holiday itself takes place in the hot summer. If you are not sure about your well-being, then we advise you to choose lemonade.
Proven drinks. Order the alcohol whose effect on your body you already know. If you have preferred dry red wine all your life, then just 50 grams of Georgian cognac can unsettle you.
Don’t forget the banquet. The newlyweds must have spent a lot of time preparing the wedding menu for their guests, so don’t forget to taste the dishes. Moreover, on an empty stomach, alcohol knocks you down.
Follow your feelings. If it seems to you that it’s already enough, then it doesn’t seem to you 🙂 It’s better to pause and raise a glass of water for a few toasts than to suffer from poor health later.
Don’t “steal” newlyweds
No matter how close you are with the couple, you need to understand that on this day all their dear people gathered together who want to take the time. Do not insist on long-term communication, because there is not much free time according to the program, and the newlyweds probably want to chat with all the guests. Our advice: congratulate the couple, take memorable photos, and then enjoy the banquet and entertainment, they worked very hard on this in preparation 🙂
Don’t initiate awkward moments
The constant shouting of “Bitter” at a wedding can be quite tiring, as can toasts that are too long. What can we say about the memories of the guests from the series: “Oh, I remember you when you were very young, you saddled the pot so skillfully!” Surely, there will be invitees who will willingly fulfill all three of the above points, and this is understandable — it is difficult for relatives to restrain their emotions on such a joyful day, there is nothing wrong with that. But it’s better not to join such a flash mob 🙂 The newlyweds will be grateful for tact.
Do not take work from the photographer
Live photos on the phone, of course, are also important, and in no case do we dissuade guests from taking them! However, during important moments in the pursuit of the best angle, you can accidentally block the view or ruin the frame for the photographer and videographer. And it’s not a fact that they will have time to move in order to catch the right picture — the moment will be missed for good.
In addition, during the wedding ceremony, the newlyweds will be pleased to see your face and live emotions, and not a phone camera. Our advice to guests: put your smartphone away for half an hour and then take cool selfies together against the backdrop of the arch.
There is no need to replace other wedding specialists either. The decorators will fix the flowers on the arch themselves, the presenter will deal with the contests, and the videographer knows exactly how he needs to shoot 🙂 Professionals have gathered here to work, and guests to relax and enjoy the holiday. Let everyone mind their own business, especially when you have such a pleasant job tonight!