How to improve family relationships

Some­times fate throws us such puz­zles, the solu­tion of which we have to look for for years. Espe­cial­ly often the most dif­fi­cult psy­cho­log­i­cal prob­lems arise where there are sev­er­al par­tic­i­pants who are forced to share a com­mon ter­ri­to­ry: for exam­ple, work col­leagues or fam­i­ly mem­bers. And if the for­mer, being in bad rela­tion­ships at work, return home, where the warmth of their rel­a­tives awaits them, then the lat­ter have nowhere to go: after all, their home is no longer a fortress, but a real “field of mil­i­tary oper­a­tions” with an enhanced psy­cho­log­i­cal front.

Psy­cho­log­i­cal knowl­edge about rela­tion­ships in the fam­i­ly exists in order to resort to it when the rela­tion­ship of rel­a­tives is “burst­ing at the seams”.

Fundamentals of well-being: the psychology of family and family relations

  • a com­mon prob­lem. To restore peace in prob­lem fam­i­lies, it is impor­tant that all its mem­bers real­ize that this is a com­mon and at the same time per­son­al prob­lem: some­one does some­thing wrong, and con­flicts are cre­at­ed on this basis;
  • mutu­al assis­tance. To resolve any dif­fer­ences, it is nec­es­sary that peo­ple help each oth­er even in reproach to their own inter­ests;
  • wars in which there are no win­ners. In any fam­i­ly con­flict there are only “losers”, because the hearth is a place where a per­son can hide from adver­si­ty and restore his strength. If this “hotbed” becomes a con­flict zone, then on the con­trary, it requires a lot of effort.

Prob­lem num­ber 1 in the fam­i­ly and fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships — respon­si­bil­i­ty

Lack of mutu­al respon­si­bil­i­ty is one of the most com­mon fam­i­ly prob­lems. Both adults and chil­dren must under­stand that they owe each oth­er a lot: to give care and love, which must be shown not only in words, but also in actions. For exam­ple, forc­ing a tired hus­band to repair the door, the wife should under­stand that tomor­row he will go to work tired, and it will be more dif­fi­cult for him to with­stand the com­pe­ti­tion that reigns out­side the walls of their house. Con­stant exhaus­tion will lead to the fact that he will stop work­ing and bring mon­ey into the house. In turn, the hus­band, urg­ing his wife to imme­di­ate­ly pre­pare din­ner or clean up the house after she returned no less tired from work, is irre­spon­si­ble on his part.

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How to improve rela­tions in the fam­i­ly in this case? To solve the prob­lem of self­ish­ness and irre­spon­si­bil­i­ty, you need to voice why you are doing this. Only through dia­logue can fam­i­ly mem­bers be “accus­tomed” to car­ing for each oth­er.

Prob­lem num­ber 2 in fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships — a lazy hus­band or wife

The inac­tiv­i­ty of the spouse offends with its injus­tice: why should some­one work hard, and in the evening, in a “half-dead” state, fall on the bed from fatigue, while some­one cools off all day and uses the work of anoth­er? This is also a fair­ly com­mon prob­lem in cou­ples where one part­ner is a pas­sive intro­vert and the oth­er is an active extro­vert.

How to improve such rela­tion­ships in the fam­i­ly? Most like­ly, it is use­less to explain to a lazy spouse how hard it is for you and that he should work, so you need to load him with work your­self. To do this, you need to rea­son­ably and intel­li­gi­bly explain what he should do today, tomor­row, in a month. It is bet­ter to start with short dis­tances, psychology of family and family relationsso he can’t come up with excus­es.

Prob­lem num­ber 3 of fam­i­ly rela­tions — matri­archy or patri­archy

If there are two lead­ers in a fam­i­ly, or rep­re­sen­ta­tives of a matri­ar­chal and patri­ar­chal fam­i­ly, then the strug­gle for pow­er can­not be avoid­ed.

How to estab­lish peace in the fam­i­ly? In this case, it is enough either to dis­trib­ute the areas of “lead­er­ship”, or to come to a con­sen­sus — equal rela­tions. It is enough for both to under­stand that every per­son is a per­son who requires a respect­ful atti­tude, and has the right not only to be lis­tened to, but also con­sid­ered right when this is true.

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