How to love your husband

Noth­ing lasts for­ev­er under the moon, and our feel­ings are no excep­tion. Over time, pas­sion turns into a habit, and ten­der­ness into fatigue. And one day, wak­ing up in the morn­ing, a woman in con­fu­sion under­stands that she does not love her hus­band. How to be in this case — to look for a way to love her hus­band again or file for divorce?

“I don’t know if I love my husband ..”

What to do if you sud­den­ly caught your­self think­ing “I don’t love my hus­band any­more”? Try to under­stand whether this is a tem­po­rary cool­ing of feel­ings on your part and there is a chance to return every­thing or your hus­band has become sim­ply dis­gust­ing to you — no mat­ter how hard you try, it’s unlike­ly that you will be able to love him again. After all, it is impos­si­ble to force a wife to love her hus­band. But it’s worth try­ing to return the feel­ings to their for­mer pas­sion.

And then, often we think that love has passed, while it just acquired a dif­fer­ent char­ac­ter. After all, it is impos­si­ble to con­stant­ly burn with pas­sion and soar to the heights of bliss just from being next to him — not a sin­gle heart can with­stand such a load. There­fore, the feel­ings sub­sided a lit­tle, but this per­son is still dear to you, right?

How to love your husband again?

As men­tioned above, you can love your own hus­band again only if there is no cat­e­gor­i­cal rejec­tion of this per­son, and of course, if you your­self want it.

  1. Remem­ber how it all began. Your first meet­ing and favorite place to walk. Per­haps, in order to wake up dor­mant feel­ings, you need to walk again through the “places of mil­i­tary glo­ry” — kiss on the bench­es, as it was in your first meet­ings, sit in the cafe where your first date took place, go to rest where you spent your hon­ey­moon .
  2. For the long time that you were togeth­er, you have already man­aged to get used to your hus­band, and some of his char­ac­ter traits, maybe even fed up. But are you sure you know your hus­band? Sure­ly, you did not pay atten­tion to some traits of his char­ac­ter, and some were not even sus­pect­ed. Try to look at it in a new way, look for new sides and facets of this per­son­al­i­ty that lives with you under the same roof. Maybe some­thing new that you dis­cov­er in it will make feel­ings flare up with renewed vig­or.
  3. Often, at the begin­ning of a rela­tion­ship, we don’t notice some of the husband’s short­com­ings or con­sid­er him cute fea­tures, but over time, he still begins to ter­ri­bly annoy. What kind of love can you talk about if you are in a state of a boil­ing ket­tle? Try to talk about this top­ic with your hus­band, tell how impor­tant it is for you that his short­com­ings dis­ap­pear. Just remem­ber, it will be dif­fi­cult for him to give up old habits, so do not issue ulti­ma­tums and do not make scan­dals. Talk to him calm­ly, make rec­i­p­ro­cal con­ces­sions, it is like­ly that some of your habits annoy him.
  4. Some­times even the clos­est peo­ple get tired of each oth­er, and it’s not some actions that start to enrage, but the mere pres­ence of anoth­er per­son. In this case, a lit­tle sep­a­ra­tion may help. No, we are not talk­ing about the tech­nique that is so often shown in Amer­i­can films “dar­ling, let’s live apart for a while.” I don't like my husband what to doSuch words are usu­al­ly said in an attempt to hide their break in front of oth­ers for some time, but it’s too ear­ly for you. It is enough just to take a break from each oth­er, for exam­ple, go on vaca­tion, but not togeth­er, but sep­a­rate­ly. Often such a short-term sep­a­ra­tion works won­ders — upon return­ing, the spous­es fall in love with each oth­er with renewed vig­or.
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But it is worth remem­ber­ing that attempts to inflame fad­ing feel­ings will be effec­tive only if these same feel­ings still exist. But if there is noth­ing to res­ur­rect, then you should not try, only waste your time and ener­gy.