Don’t know how to con­grat­u­late the new­ly­weds at the­and make a great­toast? With­out pan­ic: Chan­fash­ion pre­pared a selec­tion of tips that will help you write and deliv­er a mem­o­rable and sin­cere toast!

Don’t forget to introduce yourself

Remem­ber: there are many guests at the wed­ding, most of whom may see you for the first time in their lives. More­over, at a big wed­ding, not all guests are famil­iar with both new­ly­weds 🙂 What can we say about the brides­maids or the groom’s class­mates.

Before you make a con­grat­u­la­to­ry toast at the wed­ding, intro­duce your­self and explain who you are to the cou­ple, how long you have known each oth­er and what kind of rela­tion­ship you have. So the rest of the guests will be clear­er from whom the words of con­grat­u­la­tions sound.

Also, if dur­ing the toast you men­tion oth­er peo­ple or some spe­cial cir­cum­stances, it is bet­ter to add a lit­tle expla­na­tion to put the rest of the lis­ten­ers in con­text.

Don’t over tighten

Twen­ty-minute “Geor­gian” toasts, of course, have their own charm, but too long con­grat­u­la­tions can tire both the new­ly­weds and oth­er guests. In addi­tion, you are not the only one who wants to con­grat­u­late the heroes of the occa­sion, so the tim­ing must be treat­ed with respect. Believe me, among the rel­a­tives of the old­er gen­er­a­tion, there will cer­tain­ly be those who want to grab the micro­phone for 20 min­utes, you should not join them 🙂

When prepar­ing your­toast, rehearse it by tim­ing it on a timer. Ide­al­ly, the con­grat­u­la­tion should last no more than 5 min­utes: this is enough to say the most impor­tant words and not lose the atten­tion of the audi­ence.

Speak from the heart

Beau­ti­ful blanks from the Inter­net, movie quotes and oth­er tem­plates, of course, can sound beau­ti­ful and orig­i­nal. But the new­ly­weds will cer­tain­ly be more pleased to hear words spo­ken from the heart, and not mem­o­rized and face­less qua­trains. Talk about your feel­ings open­ly and with­out embar­rass­ment — you still can’t find a bet­ter occa­sion than the­of loved ones!

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Tell a story

If you find it dif­fi­cult to under­stand what to talk about in a toast, except for “hap­pi­ness, health, more mon­ey,” then the best way out is to tell a sto­ry. Remem­ber the fun­ny or touch­ing moments asso­ci­at­ed with you and the new­ly­weds: for exam­ple, how you met or how you met the groom from the first date with his now wife 🙂

Be careful with details

In addi­tion to the last point: choose care­ful­ly what sto­ry you will tell in your­toast. Remem­ber that ais not just a friend­ly gath­er­ing, but a respon­si­ble event, where the par­ents of the new­ly­weds, their col­leagues, and rel­a­tives of the old­er gen­er­a­tion will also be there. The sto­ry of a trip to a strip bar may be just hilar­i­ous, but is it real­ly appro­pri­ate in such a set­ting?

It is also bet­ter to miss the details asso­ci­at­ed with the for­mer pas­sions of the new­ly­weds or peo­ple with whom they broke up on an unpleas­ant note.

No negatives

Ais a bright and touch­ing hol­i­day, so it is not always appro­pri­ate to bring a touch of neg­a­tiv­i­ty into it. When prepar­ing a toast for a wed­ding, it is bet­ter not to remem­ber trag­ic or sim­ply unpleas­ant moments, so as not to over­shad­ow the gen­er­al hap­py mood.

It is also bet­ter to keep unflat­ter­ing com­ments about the new­ly­weds or some­one from those present. Even if such ban­ter­ing with each oth­er is a com­mon thing for you, which no one has been offend­ed by for a long time, oth­er invi­tees may not under­stand such an appeal. It is bet­ter not to pro­voke unpleas­ant con­ver­sa­tions and con­flicts.

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A little humor

It is not nec­es­sary to turn your­con­grat­u­la­tions into a stand-up (although why not!), but a cou­ple of jokes will not be super­flu­ous. Humor will dec­o­rate even a touch­ing and roman­tic toast, com­ple­ment­ing the emo­tion­al range. But you don’t need to push jokes out of your­self: if you feel that jokes do not fit into the text in any way, then you should not shove them by force 🙂

Congratulations to both newlyweds

Even if you are not famil­iar with the sec­ond half of your loved one, you can not deprive her of atten­tion when pro­nounc­ing atoast. Nev­er­the­less, this is a couple’s hol­i­day, the cre­ation of their fam­i­ly, so both should be con­grat­u­lat­ed. Even a short con­grat­u­la­tions for both of the cou­ple at the end of the toast will smooth the sit­u­a­tion, do not neglect this moment.

Less stress

We under­stand, it’s easy to say, but after all, ais one con­tin­u­ous stream of excite­ment for all par­tic­i­pants 🙂 But you should­n’t be ner­vous, as you would before defend­ing a diplo­ma. Sure­ly, you are very dear to the new­ly­weds, since they invit­ed you to share such an impor­tant day with them. And they cer­tain­ly don’t expect you to act like an expe­ri­enced enter­tain­er dur­ing thetoast. There­fore, there is no need to arrange an inter­nal dra­ma if you sud­den­ly stum­ble, for­get to say some pre­pared phrase, or make an unfun­ny joke. It is much more impor­tant that your con­grat­u­la­tions be sin­cere and from the heart.

Prepare your notes

In order not to go astray at the most inop­por­tune moment, pre­pare a card with the text of your toast. There is noth­ing to be ashamed of: even pro­fes­sion­al pre­sen­ters use cards and notes so as not to for­get any­thing impor­tant. How­ev­er, we still do not rec­om­mend read­ing the entire toast from a piece of paper. It is rather your cheat sheet for com­pla­cen­cy and emer­gen­cies. Bet­ter keep eye con­tact with the new­ly­weds or oth­er guests — this is much more valu­able than a per­fect­ly read text 🙂

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