Don’t know how to congratulate the newlyweds at theand make a greattoast? Without panic: Chanfashion prepared a selection of tips that will help you write and deliver a memorable and sincere toast!
Don’t forget to introduce yourself
Remember: there are many guests at the wedding, most of whom may see you for the first time in their lives. Moreover, at a big wedding, not all guests are familiar with both newlyweds 🙂 What can we say about the bridesmaids or the groom’s classmates.
Before you make a congratulatory toast at the wedding, introduce yourself and explain who you are to the couple, how long you have known each other and what kind of relationship you have. So the rest of the guests will be clearer from whom the words of congratulations sound.
Also, if during the toast you mention other people or some special circumstances, it is better to add a little explanation to put the rest of the listeners in context.
Don’t over tighten
Twenty-minute “Georgian” toasts, of course, have their own charm, but too long congratulations can tire both the newlyweds and other guests. In addition, you are not the only one who wants to congratulate the heroes of the occasion, so the timing must be treated with respect. Believe me, among the relatives of the older generation, there will certainly be those who want to grab the microphone for 20 minutes, you should not join them 🙂
When preparing yourtoast, rehearse it by timing it on a timer. Ideally, the congratulation should last no more than 5 minutes: this is enough to say the most important words and not lose the attention of the audience.
Speak from the heart
Beautiful blanks from the Internet, movie quotes and other templates, of course, can sound beautiful and original. But the newlyweds will certainly be more pleased to hear words spoken from the heart, and not memorized and faceless quatrains. Talk about your feelings openly and without embarrassment — you still can’t find a better occasion than theof loved ones!
Tell a story
If you find it difficult to understand what to talk about in a toast, except for “happiness, health, more money,” then the best way out is to tell a story. Remember the funny or touching moments associated with you and the newlyweds: for example, how you met or how you met the groom from the first date with his now wife 🙂
Be careful with details
In addition to the last point: choose carefully what story you will tell in yourtoast. Remember that ais not just a friendly gathering, but a responsible event, where the parents of the newlyweds, their colleagues, and relatives of the older generation will also be there. The story of a trip to a strip bar may be just hilarious, but is it really appropriate in such a setting?
It is also better to miss the details associated with the former passions of the newlyweds or people with whom they broke up on an unpleasant note.
No negatives
Ais a bright and touching holiday, so it is not always appropriate to bring a touch of negativity into it. When preparing a toast for a wedding, it is better not to remember tragic or simply unpleasant moments, so as not to overshadow the general happy mood.
It is also better to keep unflattering comments about the newlyweds or someone from those present. Even if such bantering with each other is a common thing for you, which no one has been offended by for a long time, other invitees may not understand such an appeal. It is better not to provoke unpleasant conversations and conflicts.
A little humor
It is not necessary to turn yourcongratulations into a stand-up (although why not!), but a couple of jokes will not be superfluous. Humor will decorate even a touching and romantic toast, complementing the emotional range. But you don’t need to push jokes out of yourself: if you feel that jokes do not fit into the text in any way, then you should not shove them by force 🙂
Congratulations to both newlyweds
Even if you are not familiar with the second half of your loved one, you can not deprive her of attention when pronouncing atoast. Nevertheless, this is a couple’s holiday, the creation of their family, so both should be congratulated. Even a short congratulations for both of the couple at the end of the toast will smooth the situation, do not neglect this moment.
Less stress
We understand, it’s easy to say, but after all, ais one continuous stream of excitement for all participants 🙂 But you shouldn’t be nervous, as you would before defending a diploma. Surely, you are very dear to the newlyweds, since they invited you to share such an important day with them. And they certainly don’t expect you to act like an experienced entertainer during thetoast. Therefore, there is no need to arrange an internal drama if you suddenly stumble, forget to say some prepared phrase, or make an unfunny joke. It is much more important that your congratulations be sincere and from the heart.
Prepare your notes
In order not to go astray at the most inopportune moment, prepare a card with the text of your toast. There is nothing to be ashamed of: even professional presenters use cards and notes so as not to forget anything important. However, we still do not recommend reading the entire toast from a piece of paper. It is rather your cheat sheet for complacency and emergencies. Better keep eye contact with the newlyweds or other guests — this is much more valuable than a perfectly read text 🙂