Bad relations with the mother-in-law are not uncommon in young families, but sometimes older daughters-in-law complain that their mother-in-law got them. What to do if you do not have a relationship with the “second mother”? What to do in this case: put the mother-in-law in her place and try to establish relations with her within the framework you have set, or come up with a way to get rid of the participation of the mother-in-law in the life of your family?
What to do if the mother-in-law got it?
If the mother-in-law is annoying to the point of impossibility with her “valuable advice”, there is an irresistible desire to find how to take revenge on the mother-in-law. But think about whether it is worth doing, maybe not everything is so bad and there is a way to make friends with the mother-in-law. After all, she is still the mother of your beloved man, and since she managed to raise such a good person, maybe there is something to love her for? Often a mother-in-law does not love her daughter-in-law because she is jealous of her son for her, because she worries about her child, and there is nothing unnatural in this. Try to understand her, explain to the mother-in-law that you love her son no less. Try to listen to her advice, make a person pleasant, but you can do as you wish.
How to get rid of the influence of the mother-in-law?
But sometimes it happens that problems with the mother-in-law do not stop, she refuses to make contact and all your attempts at reconciliation are wasted. What to do if you often repeat to your friends “I hate your mother-in-law” and think how to destroy her influence on your family? Put your mother-in-law in her place, stop ruining your life! And here’s what you can do if the mother-in-law got to the edge.
- Does your mother-in-law love to come to you unannounced, calling from the station asking to meet you? Do not even think about taking part in this, let the husband meet his mother himself, and you go about your business. Was a meeting with friends or a trip to a beauty salon planned? Do not cancel them in any case, show your mother-in-law that her arrival must be agreed in advance, no one is waiting for her with open arms.
- Does your mother-in-law consider herself a lady in her prime? Destroy her illusions, only do it under the guise of caring for her precious health. Ask how she feels and explain that she looks just awful.
- Mother-in-law is a lover of delicious food and all the time gives instructions on how to feed her son? Before arrival, prepare some boiled vegetables and all without seasonings and additions like fried meat or fish. Disguise it under the guise of concern for the health of her son — he has recently had problems with digestion. But for the sake of a loved one, the whole family will choke on such food.
- Mother-in-law wants to cook something herself? In no case do not allow her to do this, remove all food and utensils from prominent places. And in response to the request of the mother-in-law to give her what she needs, answer “well, what are you, mom, why should you bother yourself.”
- If the arrival of the mother-in-law is known in advance, start repairs in the kitchen, bathroom or toilet. Explain to your husband that you would like your mother-in-law to see that everything is beautiful and clean in your house. The main thing is not to have time to complete the repair by the arrival of the mother-in-law, let the toilet door be removed, the kitchen covered with newspapers, and the batteries (floor, walls) freshly painted with strong-smelling paint.
- Let the “terrible” happen before the arrival of the mother-in-law — the TV will break and all the series will become unavailable. And the children will play all evening while your mother-in-law is visiting you with the neighboring guys or be in the classroom in some section or circle.
- Let terrible insomnia overtake you at night, which you will relieve under the doors of your mother-in-law’s room, singing some song in a mournful voice.
- When the mother-in-law finally decides to leave your house, you don’t need to see her off, let her husband do it too. And you yourself will excuse yourself with your unexpectedly begun malaise.
- Pay special attention to your husband — he can be outraged by everything that happens. Therefore, more often during this period, assure him of your love, be gentle with him. So that all the complaints of the mother-in-law do not find a response in his heart that has melted from your caress.