Relationship Between Husband and Wife

Mankind has recent­ly stepped into the third mil­len­ni­um. But in all its his­to­ry and stages of devel­op­ment, no top­ic has been dis­cussed as often as the rela­tion­ship between a man and a woman. Love was praised in poems and songs, it inspired peo­ple to cre­ate mas­ter­pieces and bold deeds. But it has always been the cause of suf­fer­ing and sad­ness. Rela­tions between spous­es is a top­ic that will nev­er lose its rel­e­vance and will be dis­cussed for­ev­er. We will also touch this eter­ni­ty, and at the same time we will try to fig­ure out how to make the union of two peo­ple har­mo­nious and cor­rect.

Psychology of relations between husband and wife

As the prac­tice of most psy­chol­o­gists shows, despite the indi­vid­u­al­i­ty of each cou­ple, prob­lems relat­ing to the rela­tion­ship of spous­es to each oth­er are repeat­ed from gen­er­a­tion to gen­er­a­tion. It all starts with the fact that each spouse is an inde­pen­dent and mature per­son with their own views on life, tra­di­tions of their fam­i­lies and habits. A smooth and ide­al union of two dif­fer­ent peo­ple can­not be a pri­ori. How­ev­er, the psy­chol­o­gy of rela­tions between spous­es also implies work­ing on mis­takes, find­ing com­pro­mis­es, respect and trust in each oth­er, which is often for­got­ten by most cou­ples due to self­ish­ness and inex­pe­ri­ence. As a result, prob­lems arise that psy­chol­o­gists call typ­i­cal for most young fam­i­lies:

• lack of under­stand­ing;
• incom­pat­i­bil­i­ty of char­ac­ters, habits and actions;
• Dif­fer­ences on those issues that require a com­mon opin­ion.

The per­son­al rela­tion­ships of spous­es often cross the bor­der of con­fi­den­tial­i­ty, and there is lit­tle good in this fact either. The main mis­take most cou­ples make is allow­ing their par­ents, oth­er rel­a­tives and acquain­tances to inter­fere in their lives. No one is able to solve the prob­lems of spous­es except them­selves. Except, per­haps, the fam­i­ly psy­chol­o­gist. How­ev­er, experts also note that those cou­ples who come to con­sul­ta­tions with cer­tain prob­lems usu­al­ly either do not real­ize the essence of these prob­lems, or under­es­ti­mate their sig­nif­i­cance and do not believe that they can be solved. How­ev­er, if you look at it, then even in such an indi­vid­ual and unique unit of soci­ety as a sin­gle fam­i­ly, you can devel­op har­mo­ny and avoid dis­in­te­gra­tion.

What should be the personal relationship between spouses?

In any rela­tion­ship there must be an ide­al. A kind of norm or set of rules by which most dis­agree­ments can be avoid­ed. How­ev­er, this ide­al has noth­ing to do with the expec­ta­tions that spous­es draw in their heads. Anoth­er major mis­take of any cou­ple is a mis­un­der­stand­ing that the part­ner is not at all what it seems in the mind. So, here are some valu­able tips that may help you avoid con­flict or even divorce:

1. Hus­band’s atti­tude towards his preg­nant wife. No mat­ter how many beau­ti­ful ladies com­plain about men, no rep­re­sen­ta­tive of the stronger sex will ever be able to under­stand what preg­nan­cy is. In this regard, you should not use your posi­tion and blame hor­mon­al changes for every­thing. A man can also be under­stood and it is bet­ter to avoid out­right mock­ery of him. As for the future father him­self, it is advis­able for him not to be embar­rassed by his preg­nant wife, to give her the max­i­mum amount of atten­tion and care and try to share the dif­fi­cult fate with her as much as pos­si­ble. As for the birth of a child, in this case there are no excep­tions — a man, of course, gives a lot of time to work. How­ev­er, do not for­get that the spouse does not sit idle at home, and will always need help, sup­port and mutu­al under­stand­ing. Psy­chol­o­gists advise young moth­ers not to for­get that in addi­tion to the child, there is also a hus­band who also needs sup­port, ten­der­ness and atten­tion.
2. Hus­band and wife are sex­u­al rela­tions. This prob­lem is also as old as the world. Inti­mate diver­si­ty is the nuances of fam­i­ly life, which not every­one can boast of. And if one of the spous­es starts hav­ing prob­lems that have become the rea­sons for the lack of sex, it is best not to hide them, but to dis­cuss them. No mat­ter how hard the truth is, it is worth telling your part­ner before he comes up with oth­er rea­sons for refus­ing mar­i­tal debt. Oth­er­wise, each of the cou­ple, regard­less of gen­der, will find a solu­tion to the prob­lem out­side the fam­i­ly hearth.
3. Prop­er­ty rela­tions between spous­es. Most cou­ples remem­ber this ques­tion only dur­ing a divorce. Although today the trend towards the con­clu­sion of mar­riage con­tracts is devel­op­ing more and more. These doc­u­ments include the con­di­tions for the divi­sion of joint­ly acquired prop­er­ty, com­mon chil­dren, etc. So that there are no prob­lems with such a ques­tion, no mat­ter how strong the feel­ing of two peo­ple when they get mar­ried, it is bet­ter to con­clude a con­tract.
4. Rela­tion­ships between ex-spous­es. This ques­tion has many nuances and requires a sep­a­rate dis­cus­sion. How­ev­er, it is worth not­ing that if dur­ing a divorce a cou­ple has chil­dren in com­mon, then none of the par­ties should pre­vent them from com­mu­ni­cat­ing with the oth­er. No mat­ter how bad the rela­tion­ship of the for­mer spous­es may be, it is worth remem­ber­ing that the chil­dren are not to blame for any­thing and equal­ly love both par­ents.

The rela­tion­ship between hus­band and wife can be dif­fer­ent. But each of the spous­es must remem­ber the truths that will always remain unchanged and help save the mar­riage. They are sup­port, respect, abil­i­ty to lis­ten and will­ing­ness to help in dif­fi­cult times. If at least half of mod­ern cou­ples for­get about their own ben­e­fit and self­ish­ness, then the num­ber of divorces will notice­ably decrease.