“Love for the motherland begins with the family” — these words, once said by the philosopher Francis Bacon, clearly show what a big role the family plays in the process of becoming in society. Given that a person is a social being in itself, it is easy to guess that it is the family, as the smallest unit of society, that is the basis for further relationships with the whole system.
However, the role of the family in socialization, which, as you know, is a lifelong process, can hardly be overestimated. The family is our first society. We spend the first years in it, during which life values and priorities are laid, as well as the norms of social behavior are formed. The first three years of the formation of a person, as a person, takes place surrounded by a family. And it is the roles of family members that are the main starting point of human socialization, where the “first violin” is played by parents, as well as those who subconsciously took on this role. So, for example, in some dysfunctional families, children receive more care from other family members (sisters, brothers, grandparents). Our further demands on the world and the future often depend on what kind of relationships we have in the family. Moreover, the influence of the family is in all cases, whether it is positive or negative relationships.
The role of the family in the life of a modern person
The main trend that can be observed today, and which is a side effect of the technological revolution and the acceleration of the pace of life, is the detachment of the family from education as such. Busy parents early give their children into the hands of nannies, kindergarten teachers, to the world of computer games, tablets and phones. The child spends his leisure time not with his parents or friends in the yard, his planet is immersed in the world of loneliness and virtual reality. Despite this, even a “hole” in communication is formed into certain norms of social behavior for each person. In addition, researchers talk about a gradual change in the model of the modern family, and hence society as a whole.
Traditional values are gradually giving way to new ones. An increase in the number of divorces and a low birth rate against the background of an increased birth rate out of wedlock, that is, the initial entry of a child into an incomplete cell of his first society — all this plays a role. Despite this, family education tactics family education tactics remain almost unchanged:
- first — this is a dictate when adults suppress the desires of children, cutting off any, in their opinion, deviations of the child from their views, like a branch gardener, shaping his personality in his own way;
- The second type can be characterized as cooperation. This is a joint development, activity and pastime. In this case, the role of the family in the life of a small person can be called the most healthy and correct;
- guardianship. Children raised in hyper-custodial conditions are usually called “hothouse” children. Parents try to protect their child from the realities of the world, which they consider hostile. In this case, the child develops either an idealized attitude to the world, and he becomes absolutely helpless, or there is a desire to plunge into all that “dirt” from which his parents protected him. As a protest
- non-intervention tactics. Parents do not interfere in the problems of the child, believing that such an approach will give him independence and teach him to navigate in adult life.
Whatever parenting style parents choose for their child, they should remember that a child comes into this world in order to teach us, to show our internal problems, reflecting them like a mirror. Therefore, it must be remembered that the further life of the child in society depends on the climate in your family.