Are you tired of the abun­dance of wed­ding tra­di­tions? Most of them seem irrel­e­vant and not aes­thet­ic… But sit back, today Chan­fash­ion will tell you about at least a beau­ti­ful part of a tra­di­tion­al wed­ding — the rit­u­al of light­ing a fam­i­ly hearth. Imag­ine: a sub­dued light in the hall, a sin­cere speech by the speak­er about the com­fort of the parental home, and light­ing a large can­dle in your hands by your moth­ers, as a sym­bol of bless­ing and the trans­fer of fam­i­ly fire to your home. Isn’t that touch­ing?

What is the meaning of tradition?

Light­ing a fam­i­ly hearth or a fam­i­ly can­dle is a very ancient rit­u­al that arose among the Slav­ic peo­ples in time immemo­r­i­al. Fire has always car­ried a spe­cial sacred mean­ing, and if you remem­ber that a burn­ing can­dle is also beau­ti­ful, then doubts dis­ap­pear by them­selves. Ignite the fam­i­ly hearth to be!

What is the mean­ing of tra­di­tion? Par­ents, light­ing your can­dle from theirs, as if shar­ing the warmth of their fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships, con­vey a piece of their love, hap­pi­ness and fam­i­ly well-being. You feel parental bless­ing, receive part­ing words and parental con­grat­u­la­tions.

Very often, new­ly­weds leave one of the tra­di­tions at the wed­ding: either light­ing a can­dle, or hand­ing over a wed­ding loaf, con­sid­er­ing them sim­i­lar. Our advice is to leave both rit­u­als, they still dif­fer both in ener­gy and in time. More­over, it does not require large expens­es and seri­ous prepa­ra­tions.

Ritual step by step

If there are strict rules for con­duct­ing this rit­u­al, then they have long been for­got­ten by every­one. So let your cer­e­mo­ny be beau­ti­ful and touch­ing. You can look at youtube videos from oth­er wed­dings and make sure, per­haps the most impor­tant role dur­ing the cer­e­mo­ny is played by the host. It is his task to con­vey to all your guests the sig­nif­i­cance of what is hap­pen­ing, to cre­ate a spe­cial atmos­phere in the hall.

1 Fathers, as fire-mak­ers, light can­dles and pass them on to moth­ers, as the keep­ers of the fam­i­ly hearth. Moth­ers hold small flam­ing lights in their hands, and the pre­sen­ter reminds the cou­ple of their child­hood, parental home, talks about how impor­tant it is to fill their new­ly cre­at­ed home with warmth and under­stand­ing.

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2 The new­ly­weds hold their can­dle: the bride with her left hand, and the groom with her right. Some cou­ples believe that it is bet­ter to keep a can­dle only for the bride, as the mis­tress of the house and the suc­ces­sor of the hearth from moth­ers. Our opin­ion — do it the way you like it.

3 The moth­ers simul­ta­ne­ous­ly light the wick of the new­ly­weds’ can­dle. The facil­i­ta­tor talks about the con­cept itself hearth” and wish­es the cou­ple that the fire of their love nev­er goes out, and that their house is filled with light and warmth.

The whole cer­e­mo­ny takes place in sub­dued light, with touch­ing music, sur­round­ed by all those invit­ed.

The role of parents

In this cer­e­mo­ny, your par­ents are impor­tant actors and have a spe­cial respon­si­bil­i­ty. The words of part­ing words and bless­ings should be a secret for you so that the high­light of the moment is not lost. It will be great if they do not just learn vers­es from the Inter­net, but come up with their own speech and select the nec­es­sary and impor­tant words.

After the light­ing cer­e­mo­ny, par­ents can extin­guish their can­dles, or they can put them on the table so that they burn out them­selves.

If you or your loved one has an incom­plete fam­i­ly or divorced par­ents, you can involve close rel­a­tives, nec­es­sar­i­ly mar­ried or mar­ried But it seems to us that it is bet­ter to replace the rit­u­al of light­ing a fam­i­ly hearth with some­thing else, for exam­ple, a sand cer­e­mo­ny.

Don’t let your guests get bored

If the ban­quet hall you have cho­sen is small and cozy, and the tables with guests will stand in a semi­cir­cle, you can per­form the rit­u­al right in the cen­ter of the hall. But the cer­e­mo­ny looks much more beau­ti­ful when the guests sur­round the cou­ple and hold small can­dles in their hands. You can com­plete the action with a slow dance in the cir­cle of fam­i­ly and friends.


1 The wed­ding can­dle of the young should be large, in shape — to your taste, dec­o­rat­ed with hearts, rhine­stones, rib­bons or lace. You can dec­o­rate it your­self, or you can ask a dec­o­ra­tor for help.

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2 The can­dles of the par­ents are the same, thin, white.

3 It is bet­ter to use a torch to light a young can­dle (both safer and more con­ve­nient).

4 A large can­dle of the young must be on a stand so that the hot wax does not burn their hands and does not fall on the bride’s dress. For parental can­dles, you can also pre­pare nap­kins so as not to burn your hands with drip­ping wax.

5 It is nec­es­sary to check the wick of the can­dle, clean it of wax, so that the can­dle ignites well and quick­ly.

The cou­ple’s can­dle must not burn out at the wed­ding. Accord­ing to tra­di­tion, it is tak­en home and care­ful­ly stored. You can light a wed­ding can­dle for an anniver­sary, at the birth of a child, or you can even save it until the wed­ding of your chil­dren.

6 Think over with the groom and the pre­sen­ter what kind of music will sound.

7 Dis­cuss with the host how and when you will light the can­dle, how he will pre­pare the guests for the per­cep­tion of this rit­u­al. He can tell a para­ble about the ori­gin of such a tra­di­tion.

Do not light the can­dle too late, when the guests will already be very “tired” and will not be imbued with the mys­tery of what is hap­pen­ing.

8 If the ban­quet is held in a restau­rant, get per­mis­sion from the admin­is­tra­tion to light a wed­ding can­dle. This is a flam­ma­ble process, and all con­di­tions must be cre­at­ed for its suc­cess­ful imple­men­ta­tion.

9 Do not for­get that the pho­tog­ra­ph­er must also know about the upcom­ing cer­e­mo­ny. To pre­pare for shoot­ing in a dim­ly lit room.

Some new­ly­weds use for the cer­e­mo­ny aro­ma lamps (in the form of hous­es, hearts, angels, etc.). We are sup­port­ers of ordi­nary can­dles!

Can­dle flame is a sym­bol of warmth and light! Let them be in abun­dance in your fam­i­ly life. Light it up!

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