Are you tired of the abundance of wedding traditions? Most of them seem irrelevant and not aesthetic… But sit back, today Chanfashion will tell you about at least a beautiful part of a traditional wedding — the ritual of lighting a family hearth. Imagine: a subdued light in the hall, a sincere speech by the speaker about the comfort of the parental home, and lighting a large candle in your hands by your mothers, as a symbol of blessing and the transfer of family fire to your home. Isn’t that touching?
What is the meaning of tradition?
Lighting a family hearth or a family candle is a very ancient ritual that arose among the Slavic peoples in time immemorial. Fire has always carried a special sacred meaning, and if you remember that a burning candle is also beautiful, then doubts disappear by themselves. Ignite the family hearth to be!
What is the meaning of tradition? Parents, lighting your candle from theirs, as if sharing the warmth of their family relationships, convey a piece of their love, happiness and family well-being. You feel parental blessing, receive parting words and parental congratulations.
Very often, newlyweds leave one of the traditions at the wedding: either lighting a candle, or handing over a wedding loaf, considering them similar. Our advice is to leave both rituals, they still differ both in energy and in time. Moreover, it does not require large expenses and serious preparations.
Ritual step by step
If there are strict rules for conducting this ritual, then they have long been forgotten by everyone. So let your ceremony be beautiful and touching. You can look at youtube videos from other weddings and make sure, perhaps the most important role during the ceremony is played by the host. It is his task to convey to all your guests the significance of what is happening, to create a special atmosphere in the hall.
1 Fathers, as fire-makers, light candles and pass them on to mothers, as the keepers of the family hearth. Mothers hold small flaming lights in their hands, and the presenter reminds the couple of their childhood, parental home, talks about how important it is to fill their newly created home with warmth and understanding.
2 The newlyweds hold their candle: the bride with her left hand, and the groom with her right. Some couples believe that it is better to keep a candle only for the bride, as the mistress of the house and the successor of the hearth from mothers. Our opinion — do it the way you like it.
3 The mothers simultaneously light the wick of the newlyweds’ candle. The facilitator talks about the concept itself “hearth” and wishes the couple that the fire of their love never goes out, and that their house is filled with light and warmth.
The whole ceremony takes place in subdued light, with touching music, surrounded by all those invited.
The role of parents
In this ceremony, your parents are important actors and have a special responsibility. The words of parting words and blessings should be a secret for you so that the highlight of the moment is not lost. It will be great if they do not just learn verses from the Internet, but come up with their own speech and select the necessary and important words.
After the lighting ceremony, parents can extinguish their candles, or they can put them on the table so that they burn out themselves.
If you or your loved one has an incomplete family or divorced parents, you can involve close relatives, necessarily married or married But it seems to us that it is better to replace the ritual of lighting a family hearth with something else, for example, a sand ceremony.
Don’t let your guests get bored
If the banquet hall you have chosen is small and cozy, and the tables with guests will stand in a semicircle, you can perform the ritual right in the center of the hall. But the ceremony looks much more beautiful when the guests surround the couple and hold small candles in their hands. You can complete the action with a slow dance in the circle of family and friends.
1 The wedding candle of the young should be large, in shape — to your taste, decorated with hearts, rhinestones, ribbons or lace. You can decorate it yourself, or you can ask a decorator for help.
2 The candles of the parents are the same, thin, white.
3 It is better to use a torch to light a young candle (both safer and more convenient).
4 A large candle of the young must be on a stand so that the hot wax does not burn their hands and does not fall on the bride’s dress. For parental candles, you can also prepare napkins so as not to burn your hands with dripping wax.
5 It is necessary to check the wick of the candle, clean it of wax, so that the candle ignites well and quickly.
The couple’s candle must not burn out at the wedding. According to tradition, it is taken home and carefully stored. You can light a wedding candle for an anniversary, at the birth of a child, or you can even save it until the wedding of your children.
6 Think over with the groom and the presenter what kind of music will sound.
7 Discuss with the host how and when you will light the candle, how he will prepare the guests for the perception of this ritual. He can tell a parable about the origin of such a tradition.
Do not light the candle too late, when the guests will already be very “tired” and will not be imbued with the mystery of what is happening.
8 If the banquet is held in a restaurant, get permission from the administration to light a wedding candle. This is a flammable process, and all conditions must be created for its successful implementation.
9 Do not forget that the photographer must also know about the upcoming ceremony. To prepare for shooting in a dimly lit room.
Some newlyweds use for the ceremony aroma lamps (in the form of houses, hearts, angels, etc.). We are supporters of ordinary candles!
Candle flame is a symbol of warmth and light! Let them be in abundance in your family life. Light it up!