TOP 6 Mistakes in the Organization That Guests at the Wedding Do Not Like

Of course, we believe that a wed­ding is a hol­i­day for a cou­ple, and every­thing should be accord­ing to their rules 🙂 But do not for­get: if you decide to share this day with your fam­i­ly and friends, it is impor­tant to think about their com­fort. Take a lit­tle more time to think about orga­ni­za­tion­al issues so that every­one has fun and com­fort­able at the wed­ding, and then the hol­i­day will turn out to be unfor­get­table in the most pleas­ant sense of the word!

We have pre­pared a list of things that most often upset guests. Pay atten­tion to these points, and every­thing will go at the high­est lev­el 🙂

Child Ban or +1

Increas­ing­ly, cou­ples decide to arrange an adult-only cel­e­bra­tion and ask not to take small chil­dren with them to the wed­ding. This can be under­stood, because chil­dren at a wed­ding are a source of new orga­ni­za­tion­al trou­bles. But for par­ents, this brings addi­tion­al dif­fi­cul­ties: you need to decide with whom to leave the child, find a nan­ny and agree on a time. To help them, try to alert cou­ples with chil­dren as ear­ly as pos­si­ble so they don’t have to adjust their plans at the last minute.

The sec­ond ques­tion is the invi­ta­tion of the sec­ond half of friends and rel­a­tives to the wed­ding. “+1” can become a seri­ous bur­den on the wed­ding bud­get, and besides, new­ly­weds do not always know them close­ly. But if, for exam­ple, you often com­mu­ni­cate with your friend’s girl­friend and they have a fair­ly long rela­tion­ship, you should invite her. You don’t want to watch a guest sad­ly pick­ing at his plate dur­ing roman­tic slow dances, do you? 🙂

Incorrect seating at a banquet

Every­one gath­ered at the wed­ding for the sake of the bride and groom, but the new­ly­weds will not be able to pay atten­tion to every­one, no mat­ter how hard they try. There­fore, it is impor­tant to pro­vide guests with a pleas­ant com­pa­ny for the evening, and this depends on the cor­rect seat­ing arrange­ments.

The clas­sic ver­sion of the seat­ing arrange­ment with the let­ter “P”, where the bride’s guests are on one side and the groom’s guests are on the oth­er, can play a cru­el joke with you. First­ly, it’s worth “mix­ing” the guests a lit­tle: this way they will have the oppor­tu­ni­ty to get to know each oth­er, and not re-dis­cuss the same top­ics that come up year after year at fam­i­ly feasts. After all, now they are one big fam­i­ly, let them get to know each oth­er bet­ter 🙂

Sec­ond­ly, you need to con­sid­er the age of the guests. Sure­ly, your friends will want to go to the dance floor more often and par­tic­i­pate in com­pe­ti­tions, and old­er guests pay more atten­tion to con­ver­sa­tions, mem­o­ries and a ban­quet. In order for there to be mutu­al under­stand­ing, com­mon themes and the same rhythm, con­sid­er the fac­tor of age and tem­pera­ment when seat­ing.

Long break between the ceremony and the start of dinner

Remem­ber wed­dings 7–10 years ago: guests were often gath­ered in front of the reg­istry office, and after paint­ing, the new­ly­weds went for a walk, rode around the city and arranged a pho­to ses­sion before the main ban­quet in a restau­rant. What’s wrong here? A stretched free win­dow between the reg­istry office and the restau­rant, in which guests have absolute­ly noth­ing to do with them­selves.

With the grow­ing pop­u­lar­i­ty of out­door cer­e­monies, which are held in the same place as the ban­quet, the prob­lem remains the same: some­times it seems to cou­ples that it is after a beau­ti­ful cer­e­mo­ny that they need to arrange a wed­ding pho­to shoot. And guests at this time again have to look for their own enter­tain­ment.

We offer the fol­low­ing solu­tions to the prob­lem:

Photo session before the ceremony

If you set the bride’s prepa­ra­tions for 10 am, and the cer­e­mo­ny at 15–16:30, you and the groom will have enough time to take pic­tures. For some, it can be a big minus that the groom will see the bride in full dress before the cer­e­mo­ny. But you real­ly want to get touch­ing shots of how he admires you walk­ing to the altar 🙂

Photo session on another day

A good option that cou­ples do not always remem­ber. You can arrange a wed­ding pho­to shoot a day or two after the wed­ding. So you will have the oppor­tu­ni­ty to go to beau­ti­ful remote loca­tions, not to rush any­where and not wor­ry about orga­ni­za­tion­al trou­bles. Plus, it’s an excuse to put on your wed­ding dress again and treat your­self to a pro­fes­sion­al makeover.

The waiting area

If you need to orga­nize a pho­to ses­sion on the wed­ding day, think about how to bright­en up the expec­ta­tion of the guests. Here are a few points to pay atten­tion to:

• Com­fort­able spot. The loca­tion where the guests will be wait­ing for the ban­quet to begin should have a com­fort­able tem­per­a­ture (think of awnings from the sun in the sum­mer and warm blan­kets in the cold sea­son) and there must be enough places to relax: pouffes, sofas, chairs.
• buf­fet. Orga­nize light snacks: bruschet­ta, canapes, cheese plate. Drinks should be light so that no one becomes ill before the start of the main part of the hol­i­day.
• Enter­tain­ment. If a lead­ing will begin work already at this time — for this point you can be calm. He will be able to offer guests unob­tru­sive con­ver­sa­tion­al games, get to know them bet­ter and defuse the sit­u­a­tion. If the host is booked only for a ban­quet, then think about oth­er enter­tain­ment: for exam­ple, live music, your child­hood pho­tos, hung around the loca­tion. In addi­tion, this is a great time to take apart the bon­bon­nieres and leave your entry in the guest book 🙂

Inconvenient wedding location

Unusu­al wed­ding loca­tion always caus­es a “wow effect”! But it is very impor­tant to con­sid­er whether your guests will be able to get and go home with­out any prob­lems. If you are going to orga­nize a wed­ding out­side the city or in a remote loca­tion, you should think about trans­port­ing guests so that the road does not become an insur­mount­able obsta­cle for them.

If the loca­tion is sim­pler, you still need to take care of the guests: check that the invi­ta­tion con­tains the cor­rect address (yes, the name of the restau­rant alone is not enough) and the time of gath­er­ing of guests. Ide­al­ly, if pos­si­ble, you should add a screen­shot from the maps so that the invi­tees can nav­i­gate along the neigh­bor­ing streets and find the cor­rect entrance to the insti­tu­tion.

How­ev­er, no mat­ter how much infor­ma­tion you pro­vide, be pre­pared that guests may call you on your wed­ding day to clar­i­fy how to get or stop by your loca­tion 🙂 Such calls can dis­tract you from impor­tant (or just pleas­ant) things, but leave guests by chance it is impos­si­ble. Entrust one of your brides­maids or a friend of the groom with the impor­tant mis­sion of answer­ing such calls and, if nec­es­sary, meet­ing guests.

Unfortunate menu

Often, a wed­ding is a rather long event, so it is very impor­tant that guests do not go hun­gry 🙂 Pay atten­tion not only to the amount of food, but also to the taste pref­er­ences of the guests. For exam­ple, if many of the guests do not like fish, host­ing a seafood evening is not a good idea. The same applies to exot­ic dish­es: the old­er gen­er­a­tion may not appre­ci­ate pan-Asian or mol­e­c­u­lar cui­sine.

Do not for­get to take into account the spe­cial eat­ing habits of the guests. If there are aller­gy suf­fer­ers, veg­ans and chil­dren at your wed­ding, it is worth con­sid­er­ing sep­a­rate dish­es for them.

To cre­ate the per­fect wed­ding menu and cor­rect­ly cal­cu­late the num­ber of dish­es, be sure to read our guide. “How to make a menu for a wed­ding”.

Inconvenient wedding date

At first, hav­ing a wed­ding on pub­lic hol­i­days seems like a great idea: every­one has the week­end, you can stretch the cel­e­bra­tion a bit and not wor­ry about the work rou­tine. But think about the fact that many peo­ple like to spend such hol­i­days in the fam­i­ly cir­cle or, con­verse­ly, take a short trip at least out of town. In this case, if you do not warn in advance, many of the invi­tees may refuse, as they will not have time to adjust their plans.

In order not to get unpleas­ant rejec­tions, try to warn guests about your wed­ding date as ear­ly as pos­si­ble: this way there is a chance that they will either not have time to plan any­thing for such a week­end, or there will be an oppor­tu­ni­ty to resched­ule the trip for the sake of your X day.