Tyrant Husband — What to Do?

When you just start­ed dat­ing, every­thing was fine: beau­ti­ful courtship, roman­tic walks, your whole life seemed like a fairy tale, because you met a real prince! He was smart and gal­lant, and from the moment you first met you felt that this guy had seri­ous inten­tions. How­ev­er, after mar­riage, every­thing changed: now he is not a prince, but a miser, and not a gal­lant young man who respects any choice of the lady of his heart, but a domes­tic tyrant who has impris­oned his wife in the iron grip of his ego, which he asserts at her expense: then you can’t, don’t wear it, make your bed dif­fer­ent­ly, think the way I said, don’t go to your friends, lock your­self up at home and for­get about every­thing that doesn’t con­cern the fam­i­ly.

How to live with a tyrant husband?

A tyrant in the fam­i­ly is a big prob­lem, because in this case, his part­ner con­stant­ly suf­fers humil­i­a­tion and moral pres­sure. The role of the oppres­sor can also be played by a woman who is social­ly and moral­ly stronger than a man, but most often the tyrants in the fam­i­ly are hus­bands. Liv­ing with a tyrant is not an easy task, but if you need to save your fam­i­ly, you can try to get along with him, and if this does not help, then you will have to pack your bags.

1. How to talk to a tyrant? It is bet­ter not to talk to him: either be silent or give orders. Find your strong posi­tion in any sit­u­a­tion, and, start­ing from it, object to his nit-pick­ing. She washed the dish­es bad­ly, but it didn’t suit him? — Let him wash him­self. Not allowed with friends in a cafe? — well, let a crowd of women show up at your house just when he wants soli­tude and tran­quil­i­ty. Put him in ter­ri­ble psy­cho­log­i­cal con­di­tions just like he did you.
2. How to deal with a tyrant? Your demeanor should be tougher than his. After all, you are not a lit­tle girl who can­not respond with an offen­sive word or deed, but an accom­plished per­son who will not allow her­self to be dis­re­spect­ed. Learn to keep your promis­es, watch for his short­com­ings and reproach. Let him feel him­self in your role for sev­er­al months, and then you can sit down togeth­er and agree. Your task is to break his per­son­al­i­ty, as he seeks to do it with you.

What to do if you got a tyrant husband?

Unfor­tu­nate­ly, it is only nec­es­sary to fight such a hus­band with the same meth­ods that he uses. Become bold­er and copy his actions, words, demeanor. Men also have home­work, and if, for exam­ple, he is used to metic­u­lous­ly study­ing the result of your work, then hur­ry up next time to play the whole inves­ti­ga­tion: is the nail ham­mered in cor­rect­ly? And after that, orga­nize a con­cert with rea­son­ing, what clum­sy hands he has, what a “well done” his dad is, that he did not teach his son the male craft, etc.

How­ev­er, before you start get­ting rid of a tyrant man, work on your strong-willed qual­i­ties in order to be able to bring him to the point where he real­izes that he is behav­ing ter­ri­bly.

How to get away from a tyrant’s husband?

If it was not pos­si­ble to change him and all attempts only caused him great aggres­sion, then it means that you need to leave. How­ev­er, this is also not easy, because tyrants are very stub­born and con­sid­er their loved ones to be some­thing like life-long slaves who should always be near and with army readi­ness to obey.

So, how to get rid of a tyran­t’s hus­band:

• do not try to please him, delib­er­ate­ly arouse antipa­thy;
• neglect what he appre­ci­ates in you, behave cold­ly and remain silent;
• say you don’t love him;
• pack your things, take the kids and file for divorce, get­ting a job and hous­ing in advance.

How to recognize a tyrant?

In order not to acci­den­tal­ly mar­ry a tyrant, pay atten­tion to the char­ac­ter of the man and his pro­fes­sion:

1. There are often tyrants among mil­i­tary peo­ple, espe­cial­ly those who do not occu­py high posi­tions: these peo­ple obey at work all their lives, and it is not sur­pris­ing that at home they want to be com­man­ders. Nev­er­the­less, among these peo­ple some­times there are won­der­ful fam­i­ly men, reli­able and faith­ful spous­es who will not leave you in dif­fi­cult times, are not afraid of dirty work and are very smart.
2. If a young man at the first meet­ing insists that you give up some­thing (for exam­ple, a bad habit) and tries to lim­it it, then he is a poten­tial tyrant.

3. Even if a man knows how to dis­guise his tyran­ni­cal incli­na­tions well, then you can notice some “man­ners” already at the first meet­ing: for exam­ple, decid­ing which movie to watch or which way to go to the cin­e­ma is impor­tant for a tyrant to choose on his own to demon­strate his dom­i­nance.

The fore­cast of rela­tions with a tyrant depends on how much a woman will be able to defend her rights and prove that her word is not the last. Take an exam­ple from cats: soft ten­der paws do not mean defense­less­ness, because claws are hid­den in them, which are always ready to pun­ish the offend­er.