Wed­ding “so it should be” is enough for the whole Tal­mud: tra­di­tions and signs describe lit­er­al­ly every step, sigh and look of the bride and groom. And if some of them are very sweet and touch­ing (remem­ber the cer­e­mo­ny of the fam­i­ly hearth!), Oth­ers are hope­less­ly out­dat­ed and cause only embar­rass­ment. In this arti­cle, Chan­fash­ion will tell you how to make wed­ding tra­di­tions more mod­ern and enjoy­able.

Wedding tradition number 1. “Bitterly!”

wedding traditions
wedding traditions

An old wed­ding tra­di­tion that is tak­en for grant­ed. Espe­cial­ly rel­a­tives of the old­er gen­er­a­tion always end their toast with the ill-fat­ed cry of “Bit­ter!” and hoot dis­ap­prov­ing­ly if the score has not reached at least 20.

On the one hand, there is noth­ing like that in the kiss­es of the new­ly­weds, but we are all dif­fer­ent: some begin to be embar­rassed because of the man­i­fes­ta­tion of feel­ings on order, while oth­ers are angry that they are not allowed to relax and eat 🙂

Modern Alternative

If you are against “Bit­ter!”, You should warn guests about this in advance: for exam­ple, by indi­cat­ing this in invi­ta­tion cards. In addi­tion, the pre­sen­ter can come to the res­cue if you ask him: in a play­ful and unob­tru­sive way, he will be able to switch the atten­tion of the guests.

Wedding tradition number 2. The groom should not see the bride in a dress before the wedding

wedding tradition
meeting of the bride and groom

Accord­ing to the old tra­di­tion, the wed­ding dress should be hid­den behind sev­en locks from the groom, pho­tos from the fit­ting should be hid­den and the betrothed should not be allowed to enter the bride’s room until the image is ready to the end. Maybe you should­n’t take it so seri­ous­ly? 🙂

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Modern Alternative

Obser­vance of this tra­di­tion can give a very touch­ing moment: for exam­ple, in the West, for the first meet­ing of the bride and groom in fin­ished images, they care­ful­ly pre­pare, choose a pic­turesque place, and pho­tog­ra­phers and video­g­ra­phers cap­ture every moment of the meet­ing. You can read more about the vari­ants of this tra­di­tion in our arti­cle about “first sight” 🙂

Advice from Chan­fash­ion: Don’t take this tra­di­tion as a hard ban. More and more pop­u­lar is the joint morn­ing and fees of the bride and groom. If on this day you do not want to part for a sec­ond, no signs and super­sti­tions should inter­fere with you.

Wedding tradition number 3. Throwing a bouquet

How many brides­maids died in unequal bat­tles for the sym­bol of immi­nent mar­riage… Of course, we are jok­ing, but such an excit­ing moment of com­pe­ti­tion can give rise to unnec­es­sary com­pe­ti­tion and ruf­fle the dress­es and styling of bach­e­lors.

Modern Alternative

Now more and more options are being invent­ed to fight for a bou­quet: quizzes, puz­zles, dance bat­tles. Let’s talk about two inter­est­ing vari­a­tions.

Option 1. Golden key

The bride locks her bou­quet in a gold­en cage. Each of the con­tenders choos­es a key to her taste — among the dum­mies, only one fits the lock. Then the par­tic­i­pants take turns check­ing their keys, and the win­ner with the match­ing key takes the bou­quet.

how unusual to throw a bouquet at a wedding
how to throw a wedding bouquet

Option 2. Ribbons

For this cer­e­mo­ny, you will need long satin rib­bons: there should be as many of them as there are unmar­ried girls. The bride ties one rib­bon to the bou­quet, and holds the rest firm­ly in her hand so that no one under­stands whether he is hold­ing the right rib­bon or not. The girls stand in a cir­cle, choose a rib­bon for them­selves, then simul­ta­ne­ous­ly pull it towards them­selves, and the bride releas­es both the bou­quet and the rib­bons. The bou­quet is received by the one who chose the desired rib­bon tied to the flow­ers.

unusual wedding traditions
interesting wedding traditions

Wedding tradition number 4. Garter toss

The male ver­sion of the bou­quet toss: it is believed that the one who catch­es the bride’s garter will soon say good­bye to the bach­e­lor life. But not every­one likes the process of remov­ing such an inti­mate part of the wardrobe.

wedding garter
wedding garter toss

Modern Alternative

More and more cou­ples are choos­ing to throw the groom’s bou­ton­niere instead of a garter. The essence of the tra­di­tion remains, but the unnec­es­sary ambi­gu­i­ty dis­ap­pears.

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Wedding tradition number 5. Removing the veil

veil removal at wedding
wedding veil

An old Ukrain­ian tra­di­tion, which sym­bol­izes the recep­tion of the bride into the hus­band’s fam­i­ly. The moth­er-in-law removes the veil from the daugh­ter-in-law and ties a scarf instead — this is a sym­bol of farewell to the free girl’s life. But how do you not want to spoil your hair with this hand­ker­chief.

Modern Alternative

If this cer­e­mo­ny is impor­tant for your fam­i­lies, but you cat­e­gor­i­cal­ly do not want to wear a head­scarf, let’s replace this part. For exam­ple, the groom’s moth­er can take off your veil and weave a flower into your hair or just kiss you on the fore­head as a sign that she loves you and accepts you into the fam­i­ly. It will be no less sym­bol­ic and touch­ing.

Wedding tradition number 6. Shedding the newlyweds

What­ev­er they throw at the new­ly­weds 🙂 Sweets, coins, con­fet­ti and cere­als — with such a set you can have break­fast after the wed­ding. The dis­ad­van­tages are obvi­ous: the hair­style is endan­gered, the croup can get stuck in the most unex­pect­ed places of the corset, and the coins beat painful­ly.

Modern Alternative

It is bet­ter to pre­pare paper bags or cones with petals for shed­ding in advance. It will look pret­ti­er and safer, and there will be less debris left. Rose or laven­der petals are def­i­nite­ly nicer than rice 🙂

Do not for­get to check with the reg­istry office if this wed­ding cer­e­mo­ny is allowed. Some­times there are cas­es when reg­istry office work­ers go out to quar­rel with guests because of the garbage, and this clear­ly does not fit into the mood of the hol­i­day. If you are hold­ing an out­door cer­e­mo­ny, warn the loca­tion admin­is­tra­tor in advance that clean­ing will be required.

wedding tradition cute
cute wedding traditions

Wedding tradition number 7. Bride theft

Steal­ing a bride in the mid­dle of a wed­ding is almost a fixed idea for out­ra­geous guests 🙂 Many peo­ple want to feel this spir­it of adven­tur­ism and play spies. But not all girls want to skip part of the ban­quet, hid­ing in the car or back cor­ri­dors of the restau­rant.

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Modern Alternative

Dur­ing the dis­cus­sion of the script, talk to the host that you do not want to dis­ap­pear in the mid­dle of the evening and wait for res­cue. Togeth­er, think about what you can offer guests to “steal” — for exam­ple, it could be a shoe or a bot­tle of cham­pagne signed by you. For adult seri­ous guests, steal­ing is a legit­i­mate excuse to fool around, so give them this oppor­tu­ni­ty 🙂