Wedding “so it should be” is enough for the whole Talmud: traditions and signs describe literally every step, sigh and look of the bride and groom. And if some of them are very sweet and touching (remember the ceremony of the family hearth!), Others are hopelessly outdated and cause only embarrassment. In this article, Chanfashion will tell you how to make wedding traditions more modern and enjoyable.
Wedding tradition number 1. “Bitterly!”
An old wedding tradition that is taken for granted. Especially relatives of the older generation always end their toast with the ill-fated cry of “Bitter!” and hoot disapprovingly if the score has not reached at least 20.
On the one hand, there is nothing like that in the kisses of the newlyweds, but we are all different: some begin to be embarrassed because of the manifestation of feelings on order, while others are angry that they are not allowed to relax and eat 🙂
If you are against “Bitter!”, You should warn guests about this in advance: for example, by indicating this in invitation cards. In addition, the presenter can come to the rescue if you ask him: in a playful and unobtrusive way, he will be able to switch the attention of the guests.
Wedding tradition number 2. The groom should not see the bride in a dress before the wedding
According to the old tradition, the wedding dress should be hidden behind seven locks from the groom, photos from the fitting should be hidden and the betrothed should not be allowed to enter the bride’s room until the image is ready to the end. Maybe you shouldn’t take it so seriously? 🙂
Observance of this tradition can give a very touching moment: for example, in the West, for the first meeting of the bride and groom in finished images, they carefully prepare, choose a picturesque place, and photographers and videographers capture every moment of the meeting. You can read more about the variants of this tradition in our article about “first sight” 🙂
Advice from Chanfashion: Don’t take this tradition as a hard ban. More and more popular is the joint morning and fees of the bride and groom. If on this day you do not want to part for a second, no signs and superstitions should interfere with you.
Wedding tradition number 3. Throwing a bouquet
How many bridesmaids died in unequal battles for the symbol of imminent marriage… Of course, we are joking, but such an exciting moment of competition can give rise to unnecessary competition and ruffle the dresses and styling of bachelors.
Now more and more options are being invented to fight for a bouquet: quizzes, puzzles, dance battles. Let’s talk about two interesting variations.
Option 1. Golden key
The bride locks her bouquet in a golden cage. Each of the contenders chooses a key to her taste — among the dummies, only one fits the lock. Then the participants take turns checking their keys, and the winner with the matching key takes the bouquet.
Option 2. Ribbons
For this ceremony, you will need long satin ribbons: there should be as many of them as there are unmarried girls. The bride ties one ribbon to the bouquet, and holds the rest firmly in her hand so that no one understands whether he is holding the right ribbon or not. The girls stand in a circle, choose a ribbon for themselves, then simultaneously pull it towards themselves, and the bride releases both the bouquet and the ribbons. The bouquet is received by the one who chose the desired ribbon tied to the flowers.
Wedding tradition number 4. Garter toss
The male version of the bouquet toss: it is believed that the one who catches the bride’s garter will soon say goodbye to the bachelor life. But not everyone likes the process of removing such an intimate part of the wardrobe.
More and more couples are choosing to throw the groom’s boutonniere instead of a garter. The essence of the tradition remains, but the unnecessary ambiguity disappears.
Wedding tradition number 5. Removing the veil
An old Ukrainian tradition, which symbolizes the reception of the bride into the husband’s family. The mother-in-law removes the veil from the daughter-in-law and ties a scarf instead — this is a symbol of farewell to the free girl’s life. But how do you not want to spoil your hair with this handkerchief.
If this ceremony is important for your families, but you categorically do not want to wear a headscarf, let’s replace this part. For example, the groom’s mother can take off your veil and weave a flower into your hair or just kiss you on the forehead as a sign that she loves you and accepts you into the family. It will be no less symbolic and touching.
Wedding tradition number 6. Shedding the newlyweds
Whatever they throw at the newlyweds 🙂 Sweets, coins, confetti and cereals — with such a set you can have breakfast after the wedding. The disadvantages are obvious: the hairstyle is endangered, the croup can get stuck in the most unexpected places of the corset, and the coins beat painfully.
It is better to prepare paper bags or cones with petals for shedding in advance. It will look prettier and safer, and there will be less debris left. Rose or lavender petals are definitely nicer than rice 🙂
Do not forget to check with the registry office if this wedding ceremony is allowed. Sometimes there are cases when registry office workers go out to quarrel with guests because of the garbage, and this clearly does not fit into the mood of the holiday. If you are holding an outdoor ceremony, warn the location administrator in advance that cleaning will be required.
Wedding tradition number 7. Bride theft
Stealing a bride in the middle of a wedding is almost a fixed idea for outrageous guests 🙂 Many people want to feel this spirit of adventurism and play spies. But not all girls want to skip part of the banquet, hiding in the car or back corridors of the restaurant.
During the discussion of the script, talk to the host that you do not want to disappear in the middle of the evening and wait for rescue. Together, think about what you can offer guests to “steal” — for example, it could be a shoe or a bottle of champagne signed by you. For adult serious guests, stealing is a legitimate excuse to fool around, so give them this opportunity 🙂