Not everyone succeeds in being married all their lives in perfect harmony, and quarrels are sure to happen to every couple. But what if the husband constantly and undeservedly insults his other half?
Why does a husband insult and humiliate his wife?
What to do if a husband constantly insults and humiliates his wife? First, find out why he does this. Here are the most common reasons for this behavior.
- Very often, after the completion of a romantic period in a relationship, a man begins to feel encroachment on his living space. And since men are by nature more aggressive than women, the wife’s prohibitions on vacations with friends, hunting and fishing trips cause such inadequate reactions as insults. This is how a man expresses his protest against his wife’s attempts to “train” him.
- According to statistics, early marriages are not always successful, often a couple of years after marriage begins a divorce process. Why is this happening? Psychologists say that this happens because the couple is not ready for marriage. First, the partners have enough of each other, everything suits them. But after a while, one of them (more often a man) begins to understand that he was ringed early, that he had not yet had time to enjoy a free life. He expresses this dissatisfaction with the help of insults and humiliation of his wife.
- Whatever they say about female suspiciousness, men are also still those dreamers. Some do not understand women’s jokes at all and are ready to take everything at face value. For example, a wife who returned from gatherings with friends to her husband’s question “where were you?” he will say jokingly “yes, they invited strippers with the girls, they had fun.” And the husband will begin to be jealous, come up with a story of his wife’s infidelity and believe in it. But instead of clarifying the relationship openly, he will bring his wife with insults.
- It happens that a man shows aggression towards a woman not for some objective reasons, but because of his upbringing. Perhaps he saw such an attitude of his father towards his mother and is now copying his behavior.
What should I do if my husband is abusive?
In any case, you need to talk to your husband. And you need to do this calmly, trying not to break into reciprocal curses, so as not to provoke your husband even more. If the husband does not want to talk to you otherwise than in a raised tone, insulting you, you should not continue communication. Respect yourself, do not let him communicate with you in this way. Continue the conversation only when he behaves normally with you. But you should not delay the conversation, the sooner you understand the reason, the sooner you will deal with further actions. Maybe he was just jealous of you, and you need to destroy his stupid conjectures as soon as possible.
In addition to a conversation in which you will try to find out the reason for this behavior of your husband, you also need to pay attention to his reaction to your actions. In which case he shows aggression more often, when he feels pressure, restriction in any entertainment or his behavior, there is no explanation, and even he can respond to your affection with aggression and insults.
Having found out these points, draw conclusions for yourself. A man who lashes out at you because you forbid something to him is simply trying to protect his territory. Try to limit it less, because you also want to have the right to meet friends and go shopping?
Now, if a man’s behavior has no objective reasons, he breaks down on you for no reason, and to all the questions “why are you talking to me like that?” replies “yes, because you are a fool!”, there is no point in trying to save the family. After all, if a husband behaves like this all the time, insults you in front of a child, then the child absorbs such a line of behavior — since the mother tolerates this, then everything is right. In this case, you don’t have to think about how to wean your husband from insulting you, look for approaches to him and look for reasons in yourself. Since usually such people are not inclined to improve over time, their demeanor only worsens and no one can guarantee you that he will stop only at insults, he can even reach assault. You need it?